Being real – healing jiwa dan raga untuk kebahagian hakiki – Tya dan Aji

 


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Go-Getter!

Seberapa komitkah kamu untuk mencintai dan menyayangi dirimu sendiri?

Listya (berdomisili di Paris, Perancis) dan Aji Wibowo (berdomisili di Jakarta Indonesia) adalah dua orang Go-Getters yang berani bermimpi dan berdedikasi juga berdisiplin untuk mencapai cita-cita masing-masing.

Listya dan Aji juga adalah individu yang memutuskan untuk mencintai dan menyayangi diri sebagai bagian dari kehidupan mereka sehingga lebih sehat dalam menghadapi hidup.

Di tahun 2019 keduanya, di jalur hidup masing-masing, beritikad untuk menghadapi tantangan yang dihadapinya melalui perjalan ke dalam diri melalu Subconscious mind healing.  Semua apa yang kita rasakan, hadapi, dan alami bermula di dalam diri. Semakin dalam healing-nya, semakin powerful impactnya.

Apakah subconscious mind healing itu?

Cara paling mudah untuk mengerti tentang topik ini adalah dengan mendengarkan pengalaman pribadi orang-orang yang sudah melakukannya.

Hasilnya? Kebahagian hakiki yang nyata, yang terasa kuat di dalam diri mereka berdua.

 

Mari bergabung dalam refleksi perjalanan subconscious healing mereka, masalahnya apa, kendalanya apa, benefitnya apa, dan juga bagaimana mereka bisa merasakan kebahagian yang hakiki. Mereka juga berbagi apa-apa saja yang mesti dipertimbangkan jika ingin memulai Subconscious Mind Healing.

 

Love,
Astuti

 

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Timestamp:

00:00:00     Pembukaan

00:01:03      Perkenalan dengan Listya dan Aji Wibowo

00:04:33     Mengapa Tya dan Aji butuh Subconscious Mind healing

00:13:20      Perjalanan unik Tya dalam Subconscious Mind healing, yang bermula dari masalah emosi dan apa bedanya dengan pengalamannya dengan dibantu oleh seorang Psikolog di Paris, Perancis.

00:27:34     Perjalan unik Aji Wibowo dalam Subconscious mind healing, yang bermulai dari masalah fisik (insomnia, cedera pinggang, lutut, etc) setelah kurang berhasil menuntaskan healing dengan bantuan dari para dokter maupun alternative healers lainnya. Pengalaman apa yang mengejutkan yang dialami dalam proses ini di mana Subconscious Mind healing yang berasal dari masalah fisik bisa healing hati Aji sehingga menjadi siap untuk menjalin hubungan kasih dengan calon pendamping hidup yang sangat compatible dengan tidak ngoyo.

00:42:21      Pengalaman yang mengejutkan yang Lista alami ketika menjalankan subconscious mind healing untuk memproses tiga trauma yang dialaminya ketika masih kecil yang membuatnya jatuh cinta kepada dirinya sendiri dan juga membukakan kesempatan untuk menjalin hubungan dengan orang yang satu frekuensi dengannya.

01:03:54      Pointers dari Listya dan Aji bagi kalian yang ingin memulai Subconscious Mind healing.

01:12:40       Closing

 

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Up close and Personal: Go-Getter’s Self love and Self care


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Go-Getters!

What do you think when you hear “self-love” and “self-care”?

Have you figured out how to integrate them into your life?

 

My journey to get to know and integrate these started after the burnout I had at the end of 2008.

I wish I can tell you that it was easy. It’s not. 
It takes some fundamental inner work to do that, and it is still an ongoing journey for me.

If loving and caring yourself more is on your top priority list right now, let these podcast episodes accompany your journey.

 

I am hosting five wonderful Go-Getters in reflecting on the difficulties and the wisdom in implementing this huge concept of self-love and self-care. 

I hosted them in two separate episodes, in which one is in the Indonesian language.

The first episode captured a reflection of four long term friends who are Go-Getters, operating in different fields, about what self-love and self-care mean for us.

I’ve known Anna Mattsson, Deo Onyango and Hugo Diaz since we’re all at university.

Throughout the past two decades or so, we’ve grown into different directions, doing different things, built up different lives. We’ve been taking on leadership positions, taking big risks and follow-through in various ways yet one of some common things that connect us throughout all these years is our strong commitment and desire to grow and to achieve. It is not an exaggeration to say that such commitment and desire is second nature to us.

Grew up in different parts of the world, worked and lived in many countries, and well into our 40s, we are now faced with the same questions – how do we love and care for ourselves, what are the costs of not doing it so far, why this has been so difficult to do, what have we discovered along the way and how our wellbeing impacts the world?

 

The second episode is in the Indonesian language. I am hosting two Go-Getters in their 30s who have chosen to embark on their subconscious mind healing and reprogramming as their commitment to self-love and self-care.

Both Listya Kusumawati and Aji Wibowo are sharing and reflecting their experiences in diving deep within themselves to heal their core wounds and the surprises they discovered and uncovered throughout the journeys. Hence, they feel more whole in themselves that the journey of achieving and growing become more uplifting. 

 

Needless to say, I feel grateful and humbled by the courage of my guest speakers who vulnerably yet so powerfully sharing each of their unique journeys.

Please join us in these conversations. These reflections may provide you with inputs.

 

Love,
Astuti

 

Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Demystifying Essential Oil with Ale Franco

 


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You see them around, essential oils, in small dark-coloured bottles.

I even bought some from Body Shop back in the days as they sold a spray that came in a bottle and a blend of oils to be put on a candle diffuser to help me sleep. It’s called Deep Sleep, I think. They may sell these with a different name these days.

I had sleeping problems around the time of the burnout in 2008. This spray and blend of oils worked wonders for me. Yet, I never really understood what these were. All I knew was they helped me.

Fast forward to 2016 – I found myself in a very stressful and challenging situation. I took six months off to take care of my mother, who was really ill while of building a new business (the one that I do now). My head was barely above water. Both my mother and I needed “something” to support each of us. The worse thing to happen when taking care of others is to fall ill. I was emotionally and physically exhausted despite having a carer that supported me in taking care of my mother.

My best friend had led me to experience essential oils two years prior. We both were in New York City during the thick of winter of 2014, and it was so cold. My body didn’t respond too well to such temperature so I was worried that I might get ill during this trip. She advised me to apply two drops of peppermint, lemon and a blend called Thieves on to my feet every day. Without even understanding what’s going on, that week, I felt well regardless of the harsh weather.

 

With this in mind, I connected with a lady in Singapore, who is a seasoned user of Young Living Essential Oil and started my journey with these oils.

 

I came back to Indonesia with different oils – some for my mother and some for me. I could not explain to my mother what I had for her; however, she agreed to give these oil a go.

Going into day three, my mother was asking for her oils. She felt strongly that these helped her. My mother had had 35 years of diabetes at the time. Her organs were in the process of stopping, and dementia kicked in 2014. She was not so keen on adding in more medication into her body. She felt that these more like a burden to her body than helping. So, when she asked for these oils, I knew for sure these helped her.

I also started using some for myself, and these were to help my immune system to stay robust. That year (and the year after, when I took another leave to take care of my mother until she passed away in 2017), with the support of these essential oils, I remained healthy. Since then, the essential oil is a part of my lifestyle.

 

COVID 19 pandemic is a long journey, my friends. I am continuously searching for ways to support us during this challenging period. Essential Oil may be something that you can explore.

So, what is an essential oil? Why is it so helpful for us?

To demystify it all, I am joined by Ale Franco, who has done her personal exploration and research to understand what these wonderful oils are.

Since 2014, with the mind of an industrial engineer, she attended several training and congresses in the subject to help her understand the underlying science behind essential oils. She also learned about the regulations and labelling policy around the household and personal care products that she felt it is necessary to share all the accumulative knowledge that she has gathered and also tested with others so we all can make healthier choices for our lives.

A Corporate Senior Executive for a retail business based in Mexico City by day, Ale is also a Young Living Independent Distributor. She turned her passion into an alternate professional path a few years ago.

 

In this podcast episode, Ale is sharing what essential oil is, why it helps us emotionally and physically, what to watch out for when you would like to start using it and some tips on what to use these days mainly, especially because we are working from home, wearing masks and regularly need to clean our hands and our space.

She’ll share which oils could help us to stay focused throughout the day, unwind at the end of the day, manage our anxiety and to sleep better. We can do these more healthily and comfortably.

Come along, join us in this conversation. Bring your friends too. Let’s help one another to stay healthy!

Love,
Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00 Welcome and introduction of Ale Franco of www.mywellnesslife.org and her personal endeavour with essential oils for the past 20 years.

10:00 What essential oil is, how they are produced to get the best quality, and the existing regulations on it. Why essential oil has powerful healing properties.

25:40 How we can use essential oil daily to replace potentially toxic chemicals in our cleaning products

40:00 What essential oils that can help to support us in managing stress, keeping focused throughout the day, to wind down and to sleep better

52:15 What you can do to start getting and using essential oils. How to get in touch with Ale Franco to start your journey with Essential Oils.

 

To contact Ale Franco for Essential Oil Guidance and to start your journey with Essential Oil, contact her www.mywellnesslife.org

Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

#upliftmylifetoday #risefromburnout #intentionallife #essentialoil #rttworks #bodycode #emotioncode

 

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Dissecting Conscious Friendship

 

 


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Peace. Happiness. Health.

To feel them, a journey inwards is the way to go.

I also realise, for many of us, the journey inward is daunting. There is a niggling sense of unsafeness in doing so. 
“What if I can’t find my way back out?”

Understandable.

 

In the “Returning to ourselves – The wisdom of trauma” retreat that I participated in, I learnt from Dr Gabor Maté that “Safety is the presence of connection. It is not a lack of threat”.

That was a big aha moment for me. It explains to me why the quality of my relationships, over quantity, is essential.

Moreover, COVID 19 has made it even more clear to us that to survive and even to thrive this prolonged unpredictable time where everyone in the world is impacted by, connections with others are crucial to lean on.

 

Friendship, adult friendship, grown-up friendship, conscious friendship is a massive asset for us. Are you in it, or several of it?

Let me share something with you.
Out of nowhere a few weeks ago, I experienced a sense of leakage in my energy system. I woke up tired; I ran out of energy during the afternoon and had intense dreams nightly for almost a week.

A string of baseless fear crept up. The thought of “I’m going to be out there homeless, on my own”, swirled around my mind often then. It stressed me out.

Do I have any reason to think that it is going to happen that way? NO!
There is no fact, and there has never been a fact to support that idea, EVER.

Yet, that fear was there. Loud and alive.

A few days sitting with this fear, breathing in and out calmly when it acted out, I realised that this fear is triggered by an elusive threat towards my connections with my family because of prolonged lockdown. The idea of not knowing when I can see my family again (as they are in the US and Australia) brought to the surface a sense of unsafeness that rooted in a deep fear that I have of being out there all alone. It acted out in a big way.

 

It was a call to action. I confided my fear to a couple of close friends. 
Being held with love as I shared, I felt the permission to acknowledge this crippling fear. I could breathe better after, and the anxiety started to move upwards and onwards. My friends didn’t try to fix the situation. They just listened and offered some more time for us to connect until this fear completely dissipates on its own.

I value a strong friendship. Yet, this doesn’t happen by itself. It requires an investment of all kinds to grow it.

 

This podcast episode is dedicated for us to reflect on a conscious friendship – what it is about, what it is not, how it helps us and what we need to invest in to grow it, within ourselves and in the relationship itself.

Sharing their reflections are Julie Grauel, Jourdan Hussein and Constantine Karampatsos.

Through their life journeys, they all realised how valuable friendships are for them and what they learnt how to nurture one.
Enjoy and feel free to share with others.

 

 

Love,

Astuti

 

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Fresh “face” with summer love

Fresh “face” of Uplift My Life Today Podcast

 

 

 

There is something invigorating about summer. 
While it holds an invitation to take time off, it also springs out energy for something…fresher!

As I’m preparing for my summer pause, I thought I’d introduce the new podcast “poster” for my podcast channel.

I started with this channel 2 years ago, in August 2018. It’s been fun, for sure, and filled with so much learning.

I am very grateful for all of you who listen, give feedback, ask questions, and contribute to the content as well.

What I’d like to share this time is the intention behind the podcast, as I don’t believe I’ve shared this here before.

In the journey of transformation, we all are asked to deep dive into ourselves before we can go up and onwards, manifesting what we want.

The journey to deep dive can feel daunting for some, hence the birth of Uplift My Life Today – the podcast. 

This channel is set up as a safe place to do just that, TOGETHER, accompanied by some experts and a familiar voice (that’s me!) to ease it a bit. I bring in topics that help us to go deeper within and upwards as inputs.

With a playful spirit, and supported by a great artist to bring out a concept in my mind and turn it into a fun image, this poster was created. 

 

 

I love it.  What do you think?

Have a great summer and see you in the September Newsletter!
Astuti

Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 26 – No matter what, I belong – Rachelle Furer -Part 3

To be whole and to live this life feeling empowered,
we need to integrate ourselves into our systems.

 


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Knowing what we know now about how a blind systemic loyalty can burden our lives today, Rachelle Furer is guiding us to delve deeper into some real-case scenarios that create even more imbalances in our system. These imbalances are often being carried down over many generations. We’re going to discuss some of the symptoms and the root causes.

In addition, Rachelle will explain what our role is in our system, how we can contribute to it today, and where to start.

 

About Rachelle Furer:

For more than 40 years, Rachelle has been searching for ways to help others move along their paths with greater ease.

This exploration has encompassed delving into psychology, philosophy, systemic thinking, spiritual practices, metaphysics, a plethora of alternative therapies along with the more practical and pragmatic pursuit of counseling, coaching, facilitation, and teaching.

Now semi-retired to Switzerland, Rachelle remains passionate about personal and leadership development.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00     Opening and introduction

01:50      Clusters in our systems that we can choose to bring in or let go: work, politics, economy, education, religions, etc

06:55     What we tend to do out of loyalty to the country system. What we tend to do out of loyalty to the family system.

08:55     Why we inherit our ancestral unresolved situations and wounds. What to do with them.

16:08      What to do when people are missing from the family system, deliberately or otherwise.

22:10      What to do when there are people in the family who are not alive today, such as being aborted, died at childbirth, miscarriages, suicide, etc.

28:32      How to declutter ourselves from what is not ours in the intricate complex systems we belong to

30:27      How adoption impacts the belonging to the systems, along with a real case example.

45:42     How the family system would always attempt to bring the opportunity to bring balance back into the system itself over the generations. How we can contribute and move our system forward. Where to start.

57:48      Closing

 

Inputs, questions, feedback, or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 25 – The ghost in your genes in action – Rachelle Furer -Part 2

To stay sane, we need to maintain the equilibrium between “belonging” and “autonomy” continuously

 

 


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To live well PRESENTLY in our life, it is required that we maintain the equilibrium between the belonging to our system (including in it the influences of 7 generations of our ancestors) and our autonomy as an individual in the present generations. 

In this 2nd episode of the 3 parts the “No matter what, I belong” series,  Rachelle Furer is sharing some real cases that show what happens when we allow the unconscious blind loyalty to our systems rules our lives. 

Along with that, she is sharing some tools and approaches to help us maintain the equilibrium between our autonomy as the present generation and our belonging to our systems.

 

About Rachelle Furer:

For more than 40 years, Rachelle has been searching for ways to help others move along their paths with greater ease.

This exploration has encompassed delving into psychology, philosophy, systemic thinking, spiritual practices, metaphysics, a plethora of alternative therapies along with the more practical and pragmatic pursuit of counseling, coaching, facilitation, and teaching.

Now semi-retired to Switzerland, Rachelle remains passionate about personal and leadership development.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00     Opening and introduction

02:30     What Blind loyalty towards the systems we belong to looks like, how complex and blended this can be, and how this impacts our lives on a daily basis.

04:30     What happens when we are in conflict or denying our systems.

05:30     We are sane only when we have constant equilibrium between autonomy and belonging to the blended systems.

07:15     Real example when we reject a part of our system.

21:15      What equality concept means and can mean

25:25    How we can become whole within to move on in life feeling empowered. How to maintain an equilibrium of to belong and to be autonomous – suggestion of approach and tools. How blind loyalty to our system can burden us today.

31:05     A real example of how blind loyalty in action and how to change the dynamics to be truthful.

37:45    What it means to belong to a system – your role in it – your contribution and the benefits you can access.

40:05     Real example of how ancestral and systemic traumas happened 20 generations back impact one’s life today (without conscious recollection of the trauma itself).

 

Inputs, questions, feedback, or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 24 – 7 plus 7 equals ME! – Rachelle Furer -Part 1

The ghost in your genes
 

 

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Not only “The ghost in your genes” is a great documentary from the BBC, but it is also contributing to what I’d like to speak about this time.

Let me ask you first: do you know that all of us carry actively within us the influences of 7 generations of our family system?

 

You’re not alone. I didn’t either.

 

For the past few years, I’ve been digging deeper into understanding why so many of us experience a sense of confusion, disconnection, depletion, dissatisfaction, and discontentment.

 

I had a similar feeling in 2017 shortly after my mother passed away. Tuning in to the sensation that I had, instead of getting an answer, a question of “where do I belong?” arose.

Since then; to search for the answer; I went hunting for clues. Then I reached the topic of Systemic Healing, in particular ancestral healing.

 

WOAH!

 

It felt like I opened a treasure trunk with an endless bottom. It’s VAST!

 

I’ve been learning about this in many ways: a “pilgrimage” into my ancestral home town to reacquaint myself with the Javanese ancient culture, asking my relatives about the history of my family as far as I could, discovered that the stress that caused the higher blood pressure came from inherited wounds (and my health got better after healing), reading books, through my work with my clients, discussions with many people, etc. The learning still continues.

It felt like a continuous journey of collecting puzzle pieces of knowledge and wisdom to integrate.

 

SYSTEM topic is broad, it’s deep, it’s fascinating and it’s REAL!

Moreover, I believe it is something that we all can gain benefit when we understand it, at least to some degree.

 

What I’d love to offer you now is my SUMMER gift of 3 podcast episodes about SYSTEM (and systemic healing) to which all of us a part of and how understanding our relationship with it would lead us to a grounding sense of “No matter what, I belong.”

 

Guided by my beloved mentor, Rachelle Furrer, this 3 parts series is a journey inwards to understand how important it is that we integrate ourselves into our system.

 

Which system? How does it work? What do you mean by integration? What happens when we don’t? How to do that?

 

Yes, all of these questions; and more; accompanied by real examples will be shared to illustrate them.

 

Many of you reading this would probably have lived abroad or maybe even was born or give birth to a child outside of your country of origin. Trust me, you want to listen to this series.

 

As a summary, here is the snippet of each of the episodes:

Part 1 focuses on The System: what composes it, its nature, how it works, how it impacts us (what it means to belong to our system).

Part 2 contains examples and information when unconscious blind loyalty towards our System drives our lives. It also talks deeply about what happens when we deny or are in conflict with our system as well as suggestions on what to do.

Part 3 speaks about the depth of the systems and how it includes the people who are no longer alive. We also discuss what the role of the present generation is and how we can contribute and bring the system forward. Of course, there are some real case examples to be shared.

 

I am so grateful that Rachelle is so generous in allowing me to record her sharing her knowledge, expertise, and wisdom on this topic.

 

 For more than 40 years, Rachelle has been searching for ways to help others move along their paths with greater ease (Thank God for that, as I gained her support when I rose back from burnout).

This exploration has encompassed delving into psychology, philosophy, systemic thinking, spiritual practices, metaphysics, a plethora of alternative therapies along with the more practical and pragmatic pursuit of counseling, coaching, facilitation, and teaching.

Now semi-retired to Switzerland, Rachelle remains passionate about personal and leadership development.

Take your time listening to each of this 🙂

Who knows, the summer holiday may serve you as a fertile time to chat and discover your ancestral stories.

Enjoy and feel free to share with others.

Love,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00     Opening and introduction

04:14      What a system is. The variety and the nature of clusters that make the system every single one of us belongs to.

11:39       What it means to belong to these systems (a number interconnecting clusters). How this works within us. How our choices to move to different locations than our origins impact our inner world.

17:00     What happens when we’re born in a country outside of our origin. We can never step out of our family system: We carry 7 generations’ influences within us.

18:57     The importance of family and ancestry (the most important cluster within our system). What happens when we deny our ancestry.

20:11     Live demonstration on Astuti’s process to integrate her into one of her systems (Javanese – Indonesian) on a soul level.

24:48   In the modern world where we move around the world, we often forget that we belong to our systems, including ancestry.  To truly feel whole and to have peace within we need to step into our various systems intentionally and consciously.

28:35  How to connect to our systems to energize or when we feel weakened.

39:17  Live show on Astuti process to integrate into her 2nd system (the UK, as she was conceived and born in the UK)

45:00  What it means for the 3rd generation children to belong to their systems and how that is mandatory in order to make them feel whole as an individual on the physical, emotional, and spiritual levels.

49:59  What happens when we deny or in conflict with our systems.

52:00  The role of the current generation, in relation to the past 7 generations.

We didn’t come to earth clean slate!

59:42 Closing 

 

Inputs, questions, feedback, or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

#upliftmylifetoday #risefromburnout #intentionallife #systemic healing #ancestralhealing #bodycode

 

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Decluttering trapped emotions after divorce or break-up

(Opportunity for a free 30-minute virtual session)

 

It doesn’t matter whether you just come out from a divorce /breakup or have been out of the woods for a while, what I truly want to know is how your heart feels now.

When the idea of starting a new relationship feels heavy on your chest and weighing your body down, this may help you: decluttering negative trapped emotions.
 
Trapped emotions cause pain, self-sabotage, emotional problems, as well as “the heart wall”.

 
The heart wall is an energetic wall surrounding our heart made of trapped emotions. It’s created by the Subconscious mind as a way to protect us from heartaches during stressful emotional events.
 
The problem is that the heart wall disturbs our ability to connect with and experience the feeling of love within us and from others.

Let go your emotional baggage so you can start afresh in your life, now!
 
Ready to liberate yourself from this debilitating situation?
Contact me to arrange your 30-minute (free of charge) Emotion Code VIRTUAL session where I will clear some trapped emotions from your body.

This opportunity is valid until June 30th 2020 and limited to 5 people.
See you soon!

 

Love,

Astuti

Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 23 – Conscious Conflict – Kelly Brandli

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or, as we are conditioned to see it.” – Stephen R. Covey

 

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On any given day, this is why relationship; especially romantic, is…. a lot of work. 

It requires efforts to understand each other continuously. Decoding what a person communicates is a life skill that one can always get better at.
Bringing together two (or more) people (each with their own “unique lenses” to see the world) is certainly not for the faint of hearts. 

 

The bottom line is when we say yes to relationship, we’re also saying yes to conflict.

No escape is the theme of 2020. It has enforced us to be more present  in our relationships, with fewer external distractions.

It’s been challenging for many. And it is okay to admit that it is. Facing people carrying a mirror in front of our face all day long is intense.  

Regardless, the situation ultimately presents an opportunity to accelerate your thought process to go for healthier choices. There are many amazing rewards, for sure!
 
The question that I’m raising in this podcast episode is HOW we can get the gift from something so permanent, pervasive and consistent in our relationship, like conflict is. We might as well, right?

Is it easy? Well…. it is do-able, with a good understanding about what is going on when there is a conflict. 

Come on over to join my discussion with Kelly Brändli, a Scientific Dating and Relationship Coach based in Switzerland.

Kelly, a much loved 2nd time guest in this channel (check out her previous episode Conscious Dating) and I are discussing in-depth what conflict is, what leads to it, what happens when it occurs, how to understand your spouse, and some practical tools to face conflict. You’ll also hear her speak about “gridlock” in a conflict, “couple bubble”, “managing Third”, micro cheating and jealousy.

Known as “the Dating After Divorce Coach”, Kelly is also a certified Matchmaker, who helps clients around the globe get back into the dating scene and find love again after divorce.

I’d say Kelly  is… a Love optimist with a strategy.

Hop in, invite your friends and join us!

Love,
Astuti

p.s. Kelly puts together a Conscious Conflict Quick Reference Guide to sum up what we discuss in the episode. Check it out.

 

 

Time stamp:

00:00               Welcome and introduction to Kelly Brändli, Dating and Relationship Coach and Certified Matchmaker, and what we will discuss: Framework to better understand your spouse, what conflict is and tools to implement to help facing conflicts.

05:30               What conflict is and what happens when conflict arises. Why conflict is important in a relationship and what is important to do when it arises. 4 areas that lead to conflicts.

19:45               Helpful technique to express needs in a relationship impactfully – the SSNA model

26:30               Relationship stages and cycle and how conflict plays an important role in it. What can happen when conflicts are not well attended. What can help you to reach the highest stage of the relationship to experience healthy and fulfilling relationship.

36:45               How to help yourself in increasing the chance to have healthier relationship.

38:50               Two types of problems in relationships, what a “gridlock” situation is in a relationship, what happens when gridlock is unresolved and recommendations on what to do when facing one.

43:20               Can all relationships be saved? Three levels of relationships

46:20               Ten disciplines to implement in building and nurturing a healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships. A pact that you want to make with yourself to nurture trust in relationship.

53:08               “Couple bubble “concept to keep your relationship sacred and how to create it. Third parties in relationship. What micro-cheating is and what it does to your relationship.

57:20               Jealousy – what it is and how damaging it is in a relationship. Nature of trust.

1:01:00            How to get Conscious Conflict reference guide from this episode and closing.

To get the Conscious Conflict Quick Reference Guide, download it here: http://kellybrandli.com/upliftmylife

To get in touch with Kelly Brändli, connect with her via www.kellybrandli.com

Set up an appointment here when you’re ready experience a free of charge 30-minute virtual session to declutter divorce/break up – related trapped emotions.

Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Copyrights etc.:

Music used in this Episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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