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The Honest Hour – freeing self from chronic depression and substance abuse – Adam

 

Content warnings:
All the views expressed here are Adam’s personal experiences.
The discussion entails some raw and emotional details about suicidal ideation and depression.
Please do not use psychedelics without professional assistance from a psychedelically trained therapist.

 


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Opening our hearts gives others permission to do the same.

 

For the guests in “The Honest Hours” series, vulnerability is one of the most powerful life skills they learn on an advanced level. Sharing their stories here is profoundly healing them while also helping other people’s journey.

 

While sharing one story’s in public is daunting for every one of our guests, I do not often have male guests come on board and open up what they once thought was taboo to talk about.

 

 

This is what I cherish so much from this episode – having our guest, Adam, opening up and reflecting on his inner journey to come out from decades of depression, shame, and substance abuse.

 

Please be warned that this episode entails some raw and emotional details about suicidal ideation and depression. If you find yourself triggered in any way, please pause and do what you need to do to get yourself back on track. 

We also would like to emphasize not using psychedelics without professional assistance from a psychedelically trained therapist.
 

Whether you are in the midst of your journey or you’re supporting a loved one going through theirs, we hope you will find these stories inspiring.
 

Please share this with anyone that would appreciate it.
Let’s support each other’s healing journeys.
 

With love,
Astuti and Julie

 

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).
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Are you scared of success and money???

 

You can’t let go of something you don’t know you have.

 


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One thing I learnt in my healing journey is that I can’t let go of something that I don’t know I have. It makes sense, right?

 

I also know I’m right in saying that most of us, if not all of us, wish to experience success in our lives.

We may define success slightly differently, yet usually, there is a common currency of success – money, how much money we are earning.

 

We work hard and a lot to achieve success and money for years—some of us doing this at the high cost of something else in our lives, like self-care, self-love, peace of mind, sleep, rest, health, relationships, etc.
Yet, we keep at it as if there is no other way to be.

Some of us work for the money; some of us do this because of passion. A lot of us do it because we believe this is how life is. No matter what drives us to do it, money is a part of this.

 

Because of the burnout that I experienced at the end of 2008, I had to take a distance from my life to see what was there to regain my health and well-being back.
I asked myself why did I work so much yet could not even motivate myself to take care of my health and well-being simultaneously?

 

This is the thing that you may not know about me: When life calls me out, I answer and do the homework, even when it takes years to do so.

Burnout is one of those moments. I heard it loud and clear, and I responded to life: I hear you, and I will not want to be in a position where you’ll be calling me out like this ever again in the future.

 

So, I started my journey, questioning everything fundamentals in my life – what are the reasons I showed up the way I did for decades (I was 34 years old when I experienced burnout)? Working hard and achieving a lot was 2nd nature to me, and I did it without much fuss.

With the support of Subconscious Mind Therapists, I dove deeper and deeper within myself with every session. Hell yeah, it was often uncomfortable. But there was no way around it.

 

I still remembered how shock I was when I discovered that I had a fear of success.

 

WHAT?!?!? Does that even exist? That was what came to mind immediately.
To be successful was so ingrained in the achievement-driven family culture that I am a member of that to realize that I feared it was mind-blowing!

 

As my therapist helped me see the behaviours I had (some were conscious, some were not) stemming from this fear, I could not deny that I had it.

As we dig deeper, I realized the one emotion often reverberating (sometimes loudly, sometimes softly, yet always there) when I achieved success in different times of my life was GUILT. Guilt often came up when I achieved success!

As I chose to be radically honest with myself so I could heal, I was confronted with this truth. I often felt guilty for being successful.

 

This whole thing impacted my relationship with money and my default behaviours when I earned and used it.

This is what this podcast episode is all about. Ilana Jankowitz, a Mindful Money Mindset Coach and I will discuss in-depth – including how you can find out whether you have this fear of success and money.
Daily, both Ilana and I help our clients work through their deep-rooted fears and transmute them. This is one of the fears.

We can live our lives with more ease as long as we operate beyond our default subconscious mind programs. The first step is to be aware of what those programs are.

 

Enjoy this episode, take some time to sit with it and to reflect, and take action!
Share this with the people in your life – so many people have this, and they didn’t know.

Let’s all uplift our lives together.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

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The Honest Hour – a journey of liberation from dysfunctional marriage to a thriving life

 

Content warnings:

All the views expressed here are Anni’s personal experiences.

The discussion entails some raw and emotional details about abuse and rape.

 

 


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This is a real-life reflection of how Anni, now a grandmother of 6, a mother of 3 and an Irish American artist and teacher, left one of the most prominent cults in the world and freed herself from a 20-year dysfunctional relationship to a narcissistic husband to rebuild her life from the ground up.

 

This conversation reflects her inner and outer journeys in manifesting a thriving life beyond surviving.

 

This sharing is intended to serve as an inspiration delivered by someone who has risen well above the sufferings. Therefore, it is held honestly and lovingly.

 

If this story triggers you, pause it and take a few sets of deep breathing, go for a walk, speak to someone you trust. Or get professional help to ensure you are fully back in your body again. Only then you should proceed with listening.

Also, consider listening to this with someone you trust and feel comfortable with so you are not alone.

 

If you are a victim of domestic violence in Switzerland, you can get help here https://www.opferhilfe-schweiz.ch/en/i-am-victim/domestic-violence/

 

For other locations please refer to your local domestic violence support services.

 

With love,

Astuti and Julie

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

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Mencari Sigi – Upaya dan usaha mendapatkan anak – Kino dan Goyo

 

 


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Sigi adalah salah satu dari tiga nama yang disiapkan oleh Kino dan Goyo untuk anak yang mereka idam-idamkan.

 

Dalam episode ini, Kino dan Goyo berbagi perjalanan mereka dalam berusaha dan berupaya untuk mendapatkan anak yang mereka mulai tahun 2008 sampai sekarang.

 

Dengan senang hati, Kino dan Goyo bercerita tentang seluruh proses yang mereka lakukan, apa yang membantu, apa yang tidak membantu, apa yang membantu mereka memproses « grief » yang berulang-ulang, juga bagaimana proses ini mengubah mereka secara individu maupun sebagai pasangan.

 

Jika kamu atau seseorang dalam kehidupanmu akan memulai atau sedang melakukan proses yang sama, silakan mendengarkan atau mengirimkan episode ini kepada mereka.

 

Selamat mendengarkan dan meresapi.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

 

Timestamp:

 

00:00.    Pembukaan

01:30.    Perkenalan Kino dan Goyo. Berbagai proses medis yang dijalankan untuk mendapatkan anak sejak tahun 2008.

25:10     Apa perasaan selama dan sesudah melakukan berbagai upaya? Apa yang membantu untuk memproses “grief”?

32:15     Apa yang menjadi lebih jelas di dalam diri mereka dan dalam hubungan mereka sebagai pasangan hidup selama dan setelah menjalani perjalanan panjang ini?

53:15     Apa yang dirasakan Goyo sebagai suami dan calon Bapak dalam perjalanan ini?

57:30     Apa yang bisa membantu Kino dan Goyo supaya bisa menjalankan proses ini dengan lebih tenang?

 

Silakan kirim feedback dan input untuk episode ini atau episode yang akan datang ke astuti@upliftmylife.today

 

Untuk mengirimkan pertanyaan, silakan tinggalkan voice memo lewat podcast channel ini.

Terima kasih.

 

 

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Collecting, decluttering and mental health with Helena Zachariassen

 


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Change is stressful.

While it can be exciting, our mind is not wired to feel at ease being in uncertainty.

 

For our subconscious mind, uncertainty means danger. Resistance shows up consequently. The issue is we need to go through the change to grow.

 

This tells me that managing change is one of the most crucial life skills we were never taught at school.

 

Marie Diamond, one of the world-renown Feng Shui teachers, said something that resonates with me. She says that our working and living space is our 3D vision board. How our space is filled and organised reflects what are in our mind. Our space is a 3D mirror of our mind.

 

Connecting these two points of views, I find that understanding our behaviours related to our space is beneficial in managing a change process in our lives.

 

I am living proof of this. Every time a meaningful change happens in my life, I restart or refresh my connection with my living and working space. At least, this has happened seven times in my life to date. There is a different need to collect things to surround and support me (different quantity, forms, colours, even).

 

To go deeper into the topic of collection, decluttering and mental health, I am joined by Helena Zachariassen, the Founder of My Happy Home. She is a Zurich based Certified Marie Kondo Consultant and Lifestyle Coach.  She lovingly encourages and supports her clients in transforming their homes into havens of serenity. She helps them to learn how to maximise functionality and minimise clutter forever.

 

We discuss why we collect things, symptoms when the collection level becomes toxic, how our space impacts our mental health and what we can do to declutter our space well, especially as a family.

 

Take your time to listen, share this with anyone who would benefit from it and see you on the Uplift My Life Podcast channel!

 

Love,
Astuti

 

 

 

Timestamp:

 

00:00 Welcome.

01:30   Introduction to Helena Zachariassen, a Marie Kondo Consultant and Life-Style Coach – the Founder of My Happy Home and her journey in Decluttering.

07:28   Why people are collecting? Decluttering is actually a life skill.

16:50   What are the symptoms of toxic collecting that may lead to hoarding?

33:39   What is the most effective approach in doing decluttering when involving children and teenagers?

42:07   What is the correlation between anxiety and depression with clutter? How do they impact each other?

51:55   How Helena supports her clients. Head on over to her website and IG to get more information.

 

To reach Helena Zachariassen, visit her website or follow her on her IG.

I’d love to hear from you. Please write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today for input, feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

 

Copyrights etc.:

Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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#risefromburnout #intentionallife #rttworks #bodycode #emotioncode #inheritedfamilytrauma #astutimartosudirdjo

Membangun kehidupan baru setelah kedukaan beruntun

 


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Duka cita, apalagi yang beruntun dalam waktu yang singkat, bisa meruntuhkan kehidupan kita.

Mengapa, apa rasanya, dan bagaimana bisa bangkit lagi dan merangkai serta membangun kehidupan yang baru?

 

Fibria Heliani membuka hati dan pikirannya dalam percakapan kami di episode podcast ini.

 

Antara tahun 2012 sampai 2016, kehidupannya mengalami beberapa kejadian yang berat secara beruntun. 

Ayahanda meninggal mendadak, lalu ketika sedang melakukan program S2 di Inggris, Fibria diberi kabar bahwa Ibunda sakit kanker. Segala rencana dan cita-cita yang dimilikinya untuk bekerja di Inggris setelah lulus S2 pudar karena segera pulang ke Indonesia untuk mendampingi Ibu, yang kemudian meninggal di 2016. Tidak lama setelahnya, hubungan percintaan Fibria dengan seseorang pun bubar.

 

Merasa terpuruk dan bingung adalah yang dirasakan Fibria pada saat itu.

Dalam percakapan ini, Fibria merenungkan bagaimana impak dari segala kejadian ini pada dirinya dan bagaimana dia bangkit lagi untuk membangun kehidupan baru yang sekarang.

 

Selamat mendengarkan!

Astuti

 

 

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Decluttering trapped emotions after divorce or break-up

(Opportunity for a free 30-minute virtual session)

 

It doesn’t matter whether you just come out from a divorce /breakup or have been out of the woods for a while, what I truly want to know is how your heart feels now.

When the idea of starting a new relationship feels heavy on your chest and weighing your body down, this may help you: decluttering negative trapped emotions.
 
Trapped emotions cause pain, self-sabotage, emotional problems, as well as “the heart wall”.

 
The heart wall is an energetic wall surrounding our heart made of trapped emotions. It’s created by the Subconscious mind as a way to protect us from heartaches during stressful emotional events.
 
The problem is that the heart wall disturbs our ability to connect with and experience the feeling of love within us and from others.

Let go your emotional baggage so you can start afresh in your life, now!
 
Ready to liberate yourself from this debilitating situation?
Contact me to arrange your 30-minute (free of charge) Emotion Code VIRTUAL session where I will clear some trapped emotions from your body.

This opportunity is valid until June 30th 2020 and limited to 5 people.
See you soon!

 

Love,

Astuti

Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 23 – Conscious Conflict – Kelly Brandli

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or, as we are conditioned to see it.” – Stephen R. Covey

 

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On any given day, this is why relationship; especially romantic, is…. a lot of work. 

It requires efforts to understand each other continuously. Decoding what a person communicates is a life skill that one can always get better at.
Bringing together two (or more) people (each with their own “unique lenses” to see the world) is certainly not for the faint of hearts. 

 

The bottom line is when we say yes to relationship, we’re also saying yes to conflict.

No escape is the theme of 2020. It has enforced us to be more present  in our relationships, with fewer external distractions.

It’s been challenging for many. And it is okay to admit that it is. Facing people carrying a mirror in front of our face all day long is intense.  

Regardless, the situation ultimately presents an opportunity to accelerate your thought process to go for healthier choices. There are many amazing rewards, for sure!
 
The question that I’m raising in this podcast episode is HOW we can get the gift from something so permanent, pervasive and consistent in our relationship, like conflict is. We might as well, right?

Is it easy? Well…. it is do-able, with a good understanding about what is going on when there is a conflict. 

Come on over to join my discussion with Kelly Brändli, a Scientific Dating and Relationship Coach based in Switzerland.

Kelly, a much loved 2nd time guest in this channel (check out her previous episode Conscious Dating) and I are discussing in-depth what conflict is, what leads to it, what happens when it occurs, how to understand your spouse, and some practical tools to face conflict. You’ll also hear her speak about “gridlock” in a conflict, “couple bubble”, “managing Third”, micro cheating and jealousy.

Known as “the Dating After Divorce Coach”, Kelly is also a certified Matchmaker, who helps clients around the globe get back into the dating scene and find love again after divorce.

I’d say Kelly  is… a Love optimist with a strategy.

Hop in, invite your friends and join us!

Love,
Astuti

p.s. Kelly puts together a Conscious Conflict Quick Reference Guide to sum up what we discuss in the episode. Check it out.

 

 

Time stamp:

00:00               Welcome and introduction to Kelly Brändli, Dating and Relationship Coach and Certified Matchmaker, and what we will discuss: Framework to better understand your spouse, what conflict is and tools to implement to help facing conflicts.

05:30               What conflict is and what happens when conflict arises. Why conflict is important in a relationship and what is important to do when it arises. 4 areas that lead to conflicts.

19:45               Helpful technique to express needs in a relationship impactfully – the SSNA model

26:30               Relationship stages and cycle and how conflict plays an important role in it. What can happen when conflicts are not well attended. What can help you to reach the highest stage of the relationship to experience healthy and fulfilling relationship.

36:45               How to help yourself in increasing the chance to have healthier relationship.

38:50               Two types of problems in relationships, what a “gridlock” situation is in a relationship, what happens when gridlock is unresolved and recommendations on what to do when facing one.

43:20               Can all relationships be saved? Three levels of relationships

46:20               Ten disciplines to implement in building and nurturing a healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships. A pact that you want to make with yourself to nurture trust in relationship.

53:08               “Couple bubble “concept to keep your relationship sacred and how to create it. Third parties in relationship. What micro-cheating is and what it does to your relationship.

57:20               Jealousy – what it is and how damaging it is in a relationship. Nature of trust.

1:01:00            How to get Conscious Conflict reference guide from this episode and closing.

To get the Conscious Conflict Quick Reference Guide, download it here: http://kellybrandli.com/upliftmylife

To get in touch with Kelly Brändli, connect with her via www.kellybrandli.com

Set up an appointment here when you’re ready experience a free of charge 30-minute virtual session to declutter divorce/break up – related trapped emotions.

Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Decluttering the grief-related trapped emotions

Do you feel these as you are experiencing a loss, a grief?

The tensions in your chest, the short breathe, the lump in your throat, the knot in your stomach, the foggy mind, the exhaustion and lethargic feelings in your body, the pain and ache deep in your heart, the fear, the anger, and all other emotions that linger for a long time?

 

 

These are caused by negative energies that are trapped in the body during stressful emotional events.

 

Because the body is made of pure energy, the negative energy of trapped emotions can exert a damaging force on the body, which usually worsens over time.

 

Trapped emotions cause pain, self-sabotage, emotional problems, burnout, all kinds of malfunction and disease, as well as “the heart wall”.

 

The heart wall is an energetic wall surrounding our heart made of trapped emotions. It’s created by the Subconscious mind as a way to protect us from heartaches during stressful emotional events.

 

This wall, however, is not meant to be a permanent part of us. It disturbs our natural ability to heal, to give and receive love and energy.

 

The heart wall also disturbs our ability to listen to our intuition, the most powerful embedded tool within us that serves as the most important GPS in our lives, especially in the time of change and crisis.

 

Let these trapped emotions go!

 

Ready to liberate yourself from this debilitating situation?

Contact me here to arrange your 30-minute (free of charge) Emotion Code VIRTUAL session where I will clear some trapped emotions from your body.

Offer is valid until May 31st 2020.

 

 

See you soon!

Love,

Astuti

Uplift My Life Today Podcast – Ep. 22 – Facing Grief – Karin Hagelin

There is no transformation without facing and processing grief

 

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This is my conclusion after contemplating decades of my own continuous growth.

I didn’t know this until I faced the grief I had, several actually.

 

Grief happens when we experience a sense of loss, beyond just death: loss of health, relationship, normality, freedom, status, position, job, power, basically anything that you have, you can lose.

 

When you choose to transform yourself, you will go through a grieving phase, for whatever it is you choose to part ways with, including your old self.

 

By now you may realise that I bring up many “heavy” topics into the podcast, like shame, vulnerability, limiting beliefs, dysfunctional relationships, a feeling of inadequacy, achievement addictions, decluttering, letting go, intuition, etc.

These are building blocks, fundamental and important ones, for a healthy and fulfilling life; an UPLIFTED life.

 

We, Go-getters, are driven individuals who really wish to make a positive dent in the world and also in our lives. Yet, the topics above are our blind spots a lot of the time. Grief is another important one.

“I don’t have time to grief”; “I must be strong for my family”; “Suck it up and move on”; “Feeling takes so much energy and time”; “I hate crying”; “I can’t be sad when I am still here”; are just some self-talk we have when facing grief.

 

I said all these and more to myself in the past. I didn’t know what this habit did to me, to my body, to my emotion, to my spirit. Until the sudden passing of my Dad in 2012 became the straw that broke the camel’s back.

 

I was down on my knee feeling unsure how to proceed with my life. My inner body collapsed; my blood pressure went through the roof. That was the beginning of my relationship with understanding and integrating grief in my life.

 

All of you reading this deserve to have the life that you desire and to grow in the way that you wish.

For that, get to know grief and integrate that into your life. It will un-stuck you, your life and your loved ones.

 

In this newest episode, join my conversation with Karin Hagelin on what grief is, how this shows up in your life, what the costs are when you’re not facing it, how to do it and how to support others in grief.

 

Karin was the person who helped me processed mine in 2013.

She is a Life Crisis Coach based in Zurich, Switzerland, who helps people from many countries manage grief, loss and trauma; get relief from stress and anxiety; release unhealthy patterns of thought and behaviour; and heal relationships.

 

 

 

Enjoy this episode, take all in, and share it with everyone you know.

Because… we’re all meant to grow.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00                   Welcome and introduction

10:15                   What grief is, the symptoms, what is required to face grief, and how we got disconnected from an in-built process to face grief in our cultures.

13:10                   What can trigger grief

19:40                   How grief manifests in our body and our feelings.

23:12                   What happens to our body when we grief.

26:45                   Symptoms to know when to start grieving, when to get help and how to grief together with others.

34:10                   How to support others who experience grief

40:33                   Signs that we are well in processing grief

45:18                   The costs of delaying or not processing grief

49:50                   How to face grief. Emergency tool to overcome unexpected overpowering grief emotion.

55:55                   Resources to use to support a grieving journey.

 

Set up an appointment here when you’re ready experience a free of charge 30-minute virtual session to declutter grief-related trapped emotions.
To get in touch with Karin Hagelin , connect with her via www.karinhagelin.ch
Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!
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