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2021 in a few words

 

I hope you conclude 2021 with a whole heart and to start 2022 peacefully.

 

With love,

Astuti

A Transgender Man’s Transition to Joy

 

“It’s worth it to choose joy, to do something hard if it results in happiness” – Eli

 


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Most people would say they’d love to experience an abundance of joy in their lives.
Yet, how many are willing to do what it takes to be so?

 

It takes courage to step up to what one desires – to claim it, own it, and be at peace with it, even when what brings you joy may trigger others close to you.

 

This is the main reason why it is not a walk in the park to stay true to what uplifts you. The inspiration and the commitment to joy must be so much higher than the need to please and be accepted by others.

 

This latest episode of the Honest Hour is about Eli’s decision to choose joy by transitioning from being a female to a male. For him, the conscious choice to transition was not about trading genders but rather about feeling more like himself and choosing happiness and joy.

 

His reflection on the journey he has been in touched me so profoundly.
After the recording, Julie and I sat together for some time to allow what Eli shared to sink in, and we felt so inspired.

 

The human spirit is certainly not one to be underestimated.

 

Enjoy this episode, let this inspire you and please share it with others.
Let’s all remind ourselves that humans are beautiful and powerful beings.

 

With love,
Astuti

 

 

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Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

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Death and dying series: Caring for the dying – how prepared are you?

 


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I didn’t know what I got myself into when I decided to care for my dying mother for two years (2016-2017). 

I had a genuine intention to be there for her, one that I made decades ago. It was important for me to do it, and I did it for me. I know that my late mother appreciated it.

 

The truth is that both my siblings and I were very involved in our parents’ lives, especially in my mother’s since my father passed away in 2012.  Out of the three siblings, I was the one who had the most flexibility movement-wise and spent an extended period of time with my mother until she passed away. It was in total full time of 1 year spread in 2 years period.

 

No, we didn’t know what we got ourselves into. 
No, we didn’t realize how intense the whole journey was.
No, we didn’t have a thorough plan in the beginning.
What we had was the loving intention and the commitment to make this work in the way that it can be.
Luckily, we were able to communicate well with one another to create some kind of system that worked for us eventually.

 

The whole journey, though, got me thinking a lot. I decided that I’d like to talk about this. I am so happy to hear that Rachelle Fuerer shares my view about this, and it is what the 3rd episode of the Death and Dying Series is about – How to care for the dying in a healthy way.

 

Caring for the dying is not for the fainted-hearted, and this will impact your life as you go through it and beyond.

 

Rachelle is an international counsellor, therapist and coach.
 
Many years ago, she personally experienced the slow decline of a loved one to death and was struck by how all support and attention seemed to focus on the dying and not on those closest to them.
 
She trained as a bereavement counsellor at a private hospice in Roodepoort, Johannesburg and gave her time to the dying and their families during the transition process and continued to support those left behind in finding their way back into their lives.

Having made her home in Switzerland, she has also completed Palliative Care support training here.
 
For those who did not wish for a traditional service to say farewell, she also created a non-denominational “Celebration of Life”, which she has led for many families and due to Corona now even by zoom link.
She continues to offer spiritual care to those faced with their end-of-life and those closest to them on request.
 

The content of this episode is thought-provoking and just touching the surface of this vast topic.
 
Before you start, I have an important request for you.
Your support makes a massive difference for me to keep going with creating quality podcast episodes.
 
Please subscribe to the Uplift My Life Today podcast channel (from whichever platform works best for you – Spotify, Anchor, Apple Podcast, Google Podcast, Amazon Music, etc.), give it a 5-star rating, and share it with others. You sharing what you listen to with one or two other people will create incredible ripple effects.
 
My deepest wish is to support many people who would like to live their lives connected to their hearts, and all episodes in this podcast channel are created with this intention.

Thank you so much for your help!!!
 

And for now, enjoy this episode and please share your thoughts with me.
 
With love,
Astuti
 
p.s. Here are the first two episodes of “Death and Dying Series”:
What natural death means and how to prepare for it.
The overview of emotional, mental, physical and spiritual stages of the dying process.

 

p.p.s. Here are some book recommendations:
On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Dying, a transition by Monika Renz
Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan, Patricia Kelley
Final Journeys by Maggie Callanan
  

 

Let me know what you think about this episode via astuti@upliftmylife.today

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Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

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Death and dying series: Emotional, mental, physical and spiritual stages of dying

 

The overview of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual

stages of the dying process.

 


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Like in birth and life, death also has its processes.

The dying process happens on all levels – emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

 

Having had an active part in the dying process of both of my parents in two different periods that brought in two very different experiences got me reflected a lot over the past few years about what happens in the dying process. In this exploration, I had many discussions about it with Rachelle Fuerer. This is why, for this episode, I asked her to share her insight, knowledge and experiences about it.

 

I intend for this conversation to offer us an understanding that death is just like birth and life – it has many processes, and each of the process has stages. It can also help to be aware of the process we go through as we are about to start our death journey and when we support other people going through it (and this will be covered in the 3rd episode of the Death and Dying series that will be coming to you shortly).

 

My role for my clients is to catalyze their journeys in learning to live with a more awake and open heart daily. This conversation offers knowledge that one can turn some of them into skills, life skills. For the death and dying journey, we start with awareness, and this is what this episode is about: the overview of emotional, mental, physical and spiritual stages of the dying process.

 

As a professional, Rachelle is an international counsellor, therapist and coach.

Many years ago, she personally experienced the slow decline of a loved one to death and was struck by how all support and attention seemed to focus on the dying and not on those closest to them.

She trained as a bereavement counsellor at a private hospice in Roodepoort, Johannesburg and gave her time to the dying and their families during the transition process and continued to support those left behind in finding their way back into their lives.

Having made her home in Switzerland, she has also completed Palliative Care support training there.

For those who did not wish for a traditional service to say farewell, she also created a non-denominational “Celebration of Life”, which she has led for many families and due to Corona now even by zoom link.

She continues to offer spiritual care to those faced with their end-of-life and those closest to them on request.

 

The content of these episodes is thought-provoking and just touching the surface of this vast topic.

 

Before you start, I have an important request for you.

Your support makes a massive difference for me to keep going with creating quality podcast episodes.

 

Please subscribe to the Uplift My Life Today podcast channel (from whichever platform works best for you – Spotify, Anchor, Apple Podcast, Google Podcast, Amazon Music, etc), give it a 5-star rating, and share it with others. By you sharing what you listen to with one or two other people will create incredible ripple effects.

My deepest wish is to support many people who would like to live their lives connected to their hearts, and all episodes in this podcast channel are created with this intention.

Thank you so much for your help!!!

 

And for now, enjoy this episode and please share your thoughts with me.

 

With love,
Astuti

p.s. Here are some book recommendations:

On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Dying, a transition by Monika Renz

Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan, Patricia Kelley

Final Journeys by Maggie Callanan

 

Timestamp:

00:00   Opening.

03:00   Overview of the emotional and physical stages of the dying process.

25:05   Overview of the spiritual stages of the dying process.

29:35   Overview of the mental stages of the dying process. The graceful and sacred process of the soul separating from the body.

52:38   Closing

 

Let me know what you think about this episode via astuti@upliftmylife.today

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Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License 

 

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Death and dying series: natural death – with Rachelle Fuerer

You start dying the moment you’re born OSHO

 

 


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How true is this sentence?

It took me a while to understand what this means and it impacts the way that I choose to live – moving towards death, more mindfully.

For many years, I’ve been asking myself why there are so many rituals, publications, and preparation connected to birth and life but not necessarily about death.

Are we scared thinking about it? Are we scared of accepting that we all will die? What are we fearful of?

 

One thing that has helped me get familiar and eventually comfortable with any topic is to speak about it, have a conversation about it, and, whenever possible, gather some facts about it.

Death is one of those topics of paramount importance in me integrating peace into my life.

 

I decided to speak to Rachelle Fuerer about it. I’ve known and worked with Rachelle for more than a decade.

She was the first therapist I worked with to help me go deep into my subconscious mind to heal deep wounds that contributed to the burnout I experienced in 2008. I have learnt so much from her on so many topics. We both finally agreed to create a series about Death and Dying:

  • The 1st episode (which I release today) is about natural death, what it means, what It can look like, why it is important to be prepared for it and how to do so.
  • The 2nd episode is about what happens physiologically and biologically when one is in a dying process.
  • The 3rd episode is about taking care of ourselves when we are supporting other people who are dying. I can’t emphasize enough how important this is for all of us.

Episode 2 and Episode 3 will be released separately in the future.

 

As a professional, Rachelle is an international counsellor, therapist and coach.

Many years ago, she personally experienced the slow decline of a loved one to death and was struck by how all support and attention seemed to focus on the dying and not on those closest to them.

She trained as a bereavement counsellor at a private hospice in Roodepoort, Johannesburg and gave her time to the dying and their families during the transition process and continued to support those left behind in finding their way back into their lives.

For those who did not wish for a traditional service to say farewell, she also created a non-denominational “Celebration of Life”, which she has led for many families and due to Corona now even by zoom link.

Having made her home in Switzerland, she has recently also completed Palliative Care support training there. She continues to offer spiritual care to those faced with their end-of-life and those closest to them on request.

The content of these episodes is thought-provoking and just touching the surface of this vast topic.

My wish is that we start the journey to understand death so we can live more fully.

Enjoy, share your thoughts with me, and share this episode with others too.

 

With love,
Astuti

p.s. Here are some book recommendations:

On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Dying, a transition by Monika Renz

Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan, Patricia Kelley

Final Journeys by Maggie Callanan

 

#upliftmylifetoday #intentionallife  #transformation #risefromburnout  #death #dying #subconsciousmindreprogramming

The Honest Hour – freeing self from chronic depression and substance abuse – Adam

 

Content warnings:
All the views expressed here are Adam’s personal experiences.
The discussion entails some raw and emotional details about suicidal ideation and depression.
Please do not use psychedelics without professional assistance from a psychedelically trained therapist.

 


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Opening our hearts gives others permission to do the same.

 

For the guests in “The Honest Hours” series, vulnerability is one of the most powerful life skills they learn on an advanced level. Sharing their stories here is profoundly healing them while also helping other people’s journey.

 

While sharing one story’s in public is daunting for every one of our guests, I do not often have male guests come on board and open up what they once thought was taboo to talk about.

 

 

This is what I cherish so much from this episode – having our guest, Adam, opening up and reflecting on his inner journey to come out from decades of depression, shame, and substance abuse.

 

Please be warned that this episode entails some raw and emotional details about suicidal ideation and depression. If you find yourself triggered in any way, please pause and do what you need to do to get yourself back on track. 

We also would like to emphasize not using psychedelics without professional assistance from a psychedelically trained therapist.
 

Whether you are in the midst of your journey or you’re supporting a loved one going through theirs, we hope you will find these stories inspiring.
 

Please share this with anyone that would appreciate it.
Let’s support each other’s healing journeys.
 

With love,
Astuti and Julie

 

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License

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Are you scared of success and money???

 

You can’t let go of something you don’t know you have.

 


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One thing I learnt in my healing journey is that I can’t let go of something that I don’t know I have. It makes sense, right?

 

I also know I’m right in saying that most of us, if not all of us, wish to experience success in our lives.

We may define success slightly differently, yet usually, there is a common currency of success – money, how much money we are earning.

 

We work hard and a lot to achieve success and money for years—some of us doing this at the high cost of something else in our lives, like self-care, self-love, peace of mind, sleep, rest, health, relationships, etc.
Yet, we keep at it as if there is no other way to be.

Some of us work for the money; some of us do this because of passion. A lot of us do it because we believe this is how life is. No matter what drives us to do it, money is a part of this.

 

Because of the burnout that I experienced at the end of 2008, I had to take a distance from my life to see what was there to regain my health and well-being back.
I asked myself why did I work so much yet could not even motivate myself to take care of my health and well-being simultaneously?

 

This is the thing that you may not know about me: When life calls me out, I answer and do the homework, even when it takes years to do so.

Burnout is one of those moments. I heard it loud and clear, and I responded to life: I hear you, and I will not want to be in a position where you’ll be calling me out like this ever again in the future.

 

So, I started my journey, questioning everything fundamentals in my life – what are the reasons I showed up the way I did for decades (I was 34 years old when I experienced burnout)? Working hard and achieving a lot was 2nd nature to me, and I did it without much fuss.

With the support of Subconscious Mind Therapists, I dove deeper and deeper within myself with every session. Hell yeah, it was often uncomfortable. But there was no way around it.

 

I still remembered how shock I was when I discovered that I had a fear of success.

 

WHAT?!?!? Does that even exist? That was what came to mind immediately.
To be successful was so ingrained in the achievement-driven family culture that I am a member of that to realize that I feared it was mind-blowing!

 

As my therapist helped me see the behaviours I had (some were conscious, some were not) stemming from this fear, I could not deny that I had it.

As we dig deeper, I realized the one emotion often reverberating (sometimes loudly, sometimes softly, yet always there) when I achieved success in different times of my life was GUILT. Guilt often came up when I achieved success!

As I chose to be radically honest with myself so I could heal, I was confronted with this truth. I often felt guilty for being successful.

 

This whole thing impacted my relationship with money and my default behaviours when I earned and used it.

This is what this podcast episode is all about. Ilana Jankowitz, a Mindful Money Mindset Coach and I will discuss in-depth – including how you can find out whether you have this fear of success and money.
Daily, both Ilana and I help our clients work through their deep-rooted fears and transmute them. This is one of the fears.

We can live our lives with more ease as long as we operate beyond our default subconscious mind programs. The first step is to be aware of what those programs are.

 

Enjoy this episode, take some time to sit with it and to reflect, and take action!
Share this with the people in your life – so many people have this, and they didn’t know.

Let’s all uplift our lives together.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License 

 

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The Honest Hour – a journey of liberation from dysfunctional marriage to a thriving life

 

Content warnings:

All the views expressed here are Anni’s personal experiences.

The discussion entails some raw and emotional details about abuse and rape.

 

 


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This is a real-life reflection of how Anni, now a grandmother of 6, a mother of 3 and an Irish American artist and teacher, left one of the most prominent cults in the world and freed herself from a 20-year dysfunctional relationship to a narcissistic husband to rebuild her life from the ground up.

 

This conversation reflects her inner and outer journeys in manifesting a thriving life beyond surviving.

 

This sharing is intended to serve as an inspiration delivered by someone who has risen well above the sufferings. Therefore, it is held honestly and lovingly.

 

If this story triggers you, pause it and take a few sets of deep breathing, go for a walk, speak to someone you trust. Or get professional help to ensure you are fully back in your body again. Only then you should proceed with listening.

Also, consider listening to this with someone you trust and feel comfortable with so you are not alone.

 

If you are a victim of domestic violence in Switzerland, you can get help here https://www.opferhilfe-schweiz.ch/en/i-am-victim/domestic-violence/

 

For other locations please refer to your local domestic violence support services.

 

With love,

Astuti and Julie

 

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License 

 

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Mencari Sigi – Upaya dan usaha mendapatkan anak – Kino dan Goyo

 

 


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Sigi adalah salah satu dari tiga nama yang disiapkan oleh Kino dan Goyo untuk anak yang mereka idam-idamkan.

 

Dalam episode ini, Kino dan Goyo berbagi perjalanan mereka dalam berusaha dan berupaya untuk mendapatkan anak yang mereka mulai tahun 2008 sampai sekarang.

 

Dengan senang hati, Kino dan Goyo bercerita tentang seluruh proses yang mereka lakukan, apa yang membantu, apa yang tidak membantu, apa yang membantu mereka memproses « grief » yang berulang-ulang, juga bagaimana proses ini mengubah mereka secara individu maupun sebagai pasangan.

 

Jika kamu atau seseorang dalam kehidupanmu akan memulai atau sedang melakukan proses yang sama, silakan mendengarkan atau mengirimkan episode ini kepada mereka.

 

Selamat mendengarkan dan meresapi.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

 

Timestamp:

 

00:00.    Pembukaan

01:30.    Perkenalan Kino dan Goyo. Berbagai proses medis yang dijalankan untuk mendapatkan anak sejak tahun 2008.

25:10     Apa perasaan selama dan sesudah melakukan berbagai upaya? Apa yang membantu untuk memproses “grief”?

32:15     Apa yang menjadi lebih jelas di dalam diri mereka dan dalam hubungan mereka sebagai pasangan hidup selama dan setelah menjalani perjalanan panjang ini?

53:15     Apa yang dirasakan Goyo sebagai suami dan calon Bapak dalam perjalanan ini?

57:30     Apa yang bisa membantu Kino dan Goyo supaya bisa menjalankan proses ini dengan lebih tenang?

 

Silakan kirim feedback dan input untuk episode ini atau episode yang akan datang ke astuti@upliftmylife.today

 

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Terima kasih.

 

 

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Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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Collecting, decluttering and mental health with Helena Zachariassen

 


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Change is stressful.

While it can be exciting, our mind is not wired to feel at ease being in uncertainty.

 

For our subconscious mind, uncertainty means danger. Resistance shows up consequently. The issue is we need to go through the change to grow.

 

This tells me that managing change is one of the most crucial life skills we were never taught at school.

 

Marie Diamond, one of the world-renown Feng Shui teachers, said something that resonates with me. She says that our working and living space is our 3D vision board. How our space is filled and organised reflects what are in our mind. Our space is a 3D mirror of our mind.

 

Connecting these two points of views, I find that understanding our behaviours related to our space is beneficial in managing a change process in our lives.

 

I am living proof of this. Every time a meaningful change happens in my life, I restart or refresh my connection with my living and working space. At least, this has happened seven times in my life to date. There is a different need to collect things to surround and support me (different quantity, forms, colours, even).

 

To go deeper into the topic of collection, decluttering and mental health, I am joined by Helena Zachariassen, the Founder of My Happy Home. She is a Zurich based Certified Marie Kondo Consultant and Lifestyle Coach.  She lovingly encourages and supports her clients in transforming their homes into havens of serenity. She helps them to learn how to maximise functionality and minimise clutter forever.

 

We discuss why we collect things, symptoms when the collection level becomes toxic, how our space impacts our mental health and what we can do to declutter our space well, especially as a family.

 

Take your time to listen, share this with anyone who would benefit from it and see you on the Uplift My Life Podcast channel!

 

Love,
Astuti

 

 

 

Timestamp:

 

00:00 Welcome.

01:30   Introduction to Helena Zachariassen, a Marie Kondo Consultant and Life-Style Coach – the Founder of My Happy Home and her journey in Decluttering.

07:28   Why people are collecting? Decluttering is actually a life skill.

16:50   What are the symptoms of toxic collecting that may lead to hoarding?

33:39   What is the most effective approach in doing decluttering when involving children and teenagers?

42:07   What is the correlation between anxiety and depression with clutter? How do they impact each other?

51:55   How Helena supports her clients. Head on over to her website and IG to get more information.

 

To reach Helena Zachariassen, visit her website or follow her on her IG.

I’d love to hear from you. Please write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today for input, feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

 

Copyrights etc.:

Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License

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#risefromburnout #intentionallife #rttworks #bodycode #emotioncode #inheritedfamilytrauma #astutimartosudirdjo