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The root causes of achievement addiction

 

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It’s been five years since I started my path as a Subconscious Mind Reprogrammer. Five enriching years of self-growth and growing as a supporter of others.

It’s also been twelve years since the burnout experience that I had.

 

Throughout all these years, I have been diving into the depth of human psyche to understand what the subconscious mind is and how it works.
This underworld is a vast universe, yet as a Piscean, I love it. I accept that I will always be learning about this until my time to leave this earth comes.

 

I started doing this for me, and in the last five years, I started sharing what I’ve learnt along the way through my work with my clients.

Having me as my main stakeholder, I wanted to explain to myself clearly what got me into burnout.
I’ve been gathering many puzzle pieces of answers since 2009. In 2018, another big puzzle piece became clear. I concluded that I had behaviours resembling being addicted to achieve and grow for years before the burnout, obviously at self-care cost.

 

It was a big stamp – addiction, one that I felt very uncomfortable with. Yet, in my heart, I felt there was truth in it.

So, I continued to dive deeper. Shame and guilt were there with me for a while. Mindfully, as I dig deeper, I also continued with my healing journey. The two were inseparable. Over time, the shame and guilt dissipate, self-compassion grew, and I could articulate better what I discovered.

 

In April 2019, I released a podcast episode about achievement addiction.
Many people responded to this. Conversations happened, healing journeys commenced, and state of being transformed.

I’ve learnt a great deal facilitating processes for others, so it is time to share one specific aspect of achievement addiction: the root causes.

 

My friend, Julie Grauel, kindly welcome my invitation to facilitate this reflection. Similarly, we both love to explore the subconscious mind universe.

 

I hope to provide you with a perspective that can help you start your healing journey through self-healing or getting support from others.

 

After we recorded this episode, I continued reading a book by Gabor Maté, MD- In the Realm of HUNGRY GHOSTS – Close encounters with Addiction – and I landed in the following paragraph:

Any passion can become an addiction, but then how to distinguish between the two? The central question is: who’s in charge, the individual or their behaviour? 

It’s possible to rule a passion, but an obsessive passion that a person is unable to rule is an addiction. 

And the addiction is the repeated behaviour that a person keeps engaging in, even though he knows it harms himself or others. How it looks externally is irrelevant. The key issue is a person’s internal relationship to the passion and its related behaviours.

 

I know exactly what he means, and I know now how achievement addiction and passion look and feel differently in my body. When I am in the passion zone, I am at ease with all – growing, achieving, and caring for myself.

 

Take time to listen to this episode. Do it multiple times. There is a lot of reflection here. 
Please share it with others too.

And when you feel you want support transforming your achievement addiction to move into the passion zone, have a chat with me.

 

With love,
Astuti

 

Some reading recommendations:

In the Realm of HUNGRY GHOSTS – Close encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté, MD.
It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle. by Mark Wolynn.
The Biology of Beliefs by Bruce H. Lipton PhD.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD.
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Emilia Nagoski DMA.

 

 

Timestamp:

00:00:00         Opening

00:01:30          The behaviours of an Achievement addict.

00:08:25          How one becomes an achievement addict. What addiction is and what causes addictive behaviours.

00:17:00          When disconnections that lead to addiction can happen and what they can do to our psyche development.

00:38:30          Why it is difficult to let go of achievement addiction and what needs to happen to help the journey of transforming achievement addiction.

00:42:30          Key steps to get to the roots of achievement addiction.

00:47:30          How ancestral trauma contributes to achievement addiction. Support to consider to let go of the achievement addiction on the subconscious mind level

00:58:20          What feeds achievement addiction.

01:00:00          Fundamental steps to transform achievement addiction, including how Astuti helps her achievement addict clients.

01:08:00          Summary and closing.

 

I’d love to hear from you. Please write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today for input, feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

 

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Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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May your Zoom calls be merry and stylish!

 

Need a warmer and more stylish start into 2021?
Julahas capes may well be what you want.

 

Designed in Amsterdam and handmade produced in the Himalayan region, the purchase of this cape allows you to participate in keeping an old method alive, helping artisans in a small village in the Himalayan region to do what they know so well and to share it with the rest of the world while being kind to its environment and empowering women through the creation of this environment. 

Not only that, with every purchase made, Kanak Hirani, the founder, is planting 1 tree in rural Southern India in your name. You’ll get a digital certificate with a number that allows you to know where it’s planted. This is a life long campaign.

 

If you want to get to know Kanak and Julahas, listen to this podcast episode where I interviewed her in December 2019. 

Head on over to Julahas and add in “UPLIFT” as a discount code for EUR10 discount. Free shipping worldwide.

And, no, I don’t receive anything from Julahas in return of profiling them here. I LOVE their mission and their products (mine are Cape Daria Amazon and Cape Daria Zanskar while my sister, Buntari, is wearing Cape Daria Zambezi).

 

 

 

Enjoy!

Astuti

It’s a wrap!

Around this time every year, I often feel like I am on a  path of crossing a bridge. December always feels like a transition period, filled with hibernating energy all around. 

As I am writing this, I am tuning in to a word I’d use to describe my 2020 journey: “Surrender”.

This word is the closest label I can find to describe the state of being fully present and engaged in life while at the same time being completely unattached to a specific expectation.

Since my mother passed away in spring of 2017, I have been setting up a life where I can work from anywhere I want to while securing enough time to move between continents with ease to spend time with my loved ones – family and close friends.

Whilst every year, I made great progress in doing so, never could I have predicted what has been happening this year. The opposite of movement with ease is what we’ve been experiencing, not only between continent but within my own local environment. Most things that I’ve planned changed. 

For most of this year, I’ve gone through the grief for the loss of opportunity to physically reconnect with my loved ones. This physical connection has been essential for me to support my grieving process for the passing of my beloved mother. It was challenging not to have it. Instead, compounded grief was what I experienced, and this was intense.

By the summer, these compounded griefs created quite an anxiety of the fears to be homeless and dying alone out there. Fears got triggered by actually harmless things. So exhausting as this stayed for almost 2 weeks.

I decided to stop asking myself why things were happening the way it has been. This question didn’t help. The fact is, what happened, happened.
The situation that we’re all in right now will remain for who knows how long.

“The quality of your life correlates with the quality of your questions”, someone said to me once, and she was right.

I ask myself more frequently another question: who can I be and what can I do to make the most of this situation?

2020 was my accelerated path of surrender.

I am doing my best to accept what is, to grief for both my mother and for the loss of my original plan and the opportunities that could not be repeated nor regained (my nephew, Leo, will continue growing and one day he would not be so keen for me to squeeze and cuddle him), to let go of the beliefs I have against surrendering with grace, as well as to learn new life skills better.

I went through a full year of healing and self-discovery, a mindful journey going deeper into my inner world. To facilitate it, I have been using an approach that I was not open to doing until this year: Art.

 

The Diamond Bridge by Astuti Martosudirdjo

 

My art teacher, Anni Doré, supported me in channelling how I see and feel about who I am and my life through this collage that you see here; through geometrical shapes, patterns, colours and composition. I worked on this piece for weeks and finally completed it 2 weeks ago.  I call it “The Diamond Bridge”.

 

Through my heart, I see that my life consists of many bridges, small bridges, big bridges, long and short ones, old and new. Some bridges are going inwards, and some are outwards. The bridges offer opportunities to connect me with myself and the rest of the world.
As I cross each of the bridge, I get to experience a different facet of who I am and my life. There are many facets, just like the facets of a glorious diamond, strong and resilient.

 

I want to share this with you because you all have been a part of my journey, in your own unique way. THANK YOU.

Thank you for the connections. Thank you for supporting me. Thank you for trusting me to support you. THANK YOU.

 

As I am coming closer to the end of the current bridge, I feel a deep sense of contentment and a voice deep down saying lovingly – “I’m alright.” 

 

With an open heart, I am sending you my wishes for the holiday season.
May your 2020 conclude and your 2021 start with peaceful and loving energy, connected to your loved ones.
 

 

With love,
Astuti

Being real – healing jiwa dan raga untuk kebahagian hakiki – Tya dan Aji

 


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Go-Getter!

Seberapa komitkah kamu untuk mencintai dan menyayangi dirimu sendiri?

Listya (berdomisili di Paris, Perancis) dan Aji Wibowo (berdomisili di Jakarta Indonesia) adalah dua orang Go-Getters yang berani bermimpi dan berdedikasi juga berdisiplin untuk mencapai cita-cita masing-masing.

Listya dan Aji juga adalah individu yang memutuskan untuk mencintai dan menyayangi diri sebagai bagian dari kehidupan mereka sehingga lebih sehat dalam menghadapi hidup.

Di tahun 2019 keduanya, di jalur hidup masing-masing, beritikad untuk menghadapi tantangan yang dihadapinya melalui perjalan ke dalam diri melalu Subconscious mind healing.  Semua apa yang kita rasakan, hadapi, dan alami bermula di dalam diri. Semakin dalam healing-nya, semakin powerful impactnya.

Apakah subconscious mind healing itu?

Cara paling mudah untuk mengerti tentang topik ini adalah dengan mendengarkan pengalaman pribadi orang-orang yang sudah melakukannya.

Hasilnya? Kebahagian hakiki yang nyata, yang terasa kuat di dalam diri mereka berdua.

 

Mari bergabung dalam refleksi perjalanan subconscious healing mereka, masalahnya apa, kendalanya apa, benefitnya apa, dan juga bagaimana mereka bisa merasakan kebahagian yang hakiki. Mereka juga berbagi apa-apa saja yang mesti dipertimbangkan jika ingin memulai Subconscious Mind Healing.

 

Love,
Astuti

 

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Timestamp:

00:00:00     Pembukaan

00:01:03      Perkenalan dengan Listya dan Aji Wibowo

00:04:33     Mengapa Tya dan Aji butuh Subconscious Mind healing

00:13:20      Perjalanan unik Tya dalam Subconscious Mind healing, yang bermula dari masalah emosi dan apa bedanya dengan pengalamannya dengan dibantu oleh seorang Psikolog di Paris, Perancis.

00:27:34     Perjalan unik Aji Wibowo dalam Subconscious mind healing, yang bermulai dari masalah fisik (insomnia, cedera pinggang, lutut, etc) setelah kurang berhasil menuntaskan healing dengan bantuan dari para dokter maupun alternative healers lainnya. Pengalaman apa yang mengejutkan yang dialami dalam proses ini di mana Subconscious Mind healing yang berasal dari masalah fisik bisa healing hati Aji sehingga menjadi siap untuk menjalin hubungan kasih dengan calon pendamping hidup yang sangat compatible dengan tidak ngoyo.

00:42:21      Pengalaman yang mengejutkan yang Lista alami ketika menjalankan subconscious mind healing untuk memproses tiga trauma yang dialaminya ketika masih kecil yang membuatnya jatuh cinta kepada dirinya sendiri dan juga membukakan kesempatan untuk menjalin hubungan dengan orang yang satu frekuensi dengannya.

01:03:54      Pointers dari Listya dan Aji bagi kalian yang ingin memulai Subconscious Mind healing.

01:12:40       Closing

 

Untuk feedback dan input, silakan hubungi saya di astuti@upliftmylife.today. Terima kasih.

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Music used in this Episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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Up close and Personal: Go-Getter’s Self love and Self care


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Go-Getters!

What do you think when you hear “self-love” and “self-care”?

Have you figured out how to integrate them into your life?

 

My journey to get to know and integrate these started after the burnout I had at the end of 2008.

I wish I can tell you that it was easy. It’s not. 
It takes some fundamental inner work to do that, and it is still an ongoing journey for me.

If loving and caring yourself more is on your top priority list right now, let these podcast episodes accompany your journey.

 

I am hosting five wonderful Go-Getters in reflecting on the difficulties and the wisdom in implementing this huge concept of self-love and self-care. 

I hosted them in two separate episodes, in which one is in the Indonesian language.

The first episode captured a reflection of four long term friends who are Go-Getters, operating in different fields, about what self-love and self-care mean for us.

I’ve known Anna Mattsson, Deo Onyango and Hugo Diaz since we’re all at university.

Throughout the past two decades or so, we’ve grown into different directions, doing different things, built up different lives. We’ve been taking on leadership positions, taking big risks and follow-through in various ways yet one of some common things that connect us throughout all these years is our strong commitment and desire to grow and to achieve. It is not an exaggeration to say that such commitment and desire is second nature to us.

Grew up in different parts of the world, worked and lived in many countries, and well into our 40s, we are now faced with the same questions – how do we love and care for ourselves, what are the costs of not doing it so far, why this has been so difficult to do, what have we discovered along the way and how our wellbeing impacts the world?

 

The second episode is in the Indonesian language. I am hosting two Go-Getters in their 30s who have chosen to embark on their subconscious mind healing and reprogramming as their commitment to self-love and self-care.

Both Listya Kusumawati and Aji Wibowo are sharing and reflecting their experiences in diving deep within themselves to heal their core wounds and the surprises they discovered and uncovered throughout the journeys. Hence, they feel more whole in themselves that the journey of achieving and growing become more uplifting. 

 

Needless to say, I feel grateful and humbled by the courage of my guest speakers who vulnerably yet so powerfully sharing each of their unique journeys.

Please join us in these conversations. These reflections may provide you with inputs.

 

Love,
Astuti

 

Inputs, feedback or suggestion for topics – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today. Thanks!

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Music used in this Episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License