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25 Years Later: What Work Taught Me About Freedom, Love, and Truth

 

25 Years Later:

What Work Taught Me About Freedom, Love, and Truth

 

This year marks a threshold for me:
25 years since I graduated from university and stepped into the world of work.
A quarter century of showing up. Trying. Building. Unraveling. Becoming.

As I reflect, it isn’t only the achievements, titles, or projects that rise to the surface.
It’s the subtle, often invisible lessons that have shaped me – softened and humbled me – through my professional journey.

Work has been one of my greatest teachers.
Not only for what it allowed me to create, but for how it invited me to grow.
It called me back, again and again, to my own freedom and authentic self.

If I could gather the essence of these years into a few living truths, they would sound like this:

Work is not my identity; it is an expression of my being

In the beginning, I believed that my worth could be earned:
Through how much I could give.
Through how well I could perform.
Through how far I could stretch myself for others.

Restlessness lived beneath my drive.
Comfort felt unsafe. Familiarity made me feel weary.
I needed stretch goals because stillness triggered a quiet guilt in me.

But over time, I realized:
Work is not who I am.
It is how I express the essence of who I am becoming.

Freedom is an inner landscape, not a reward for effort

For years, I carried an urgency inside me : A push to grow. Achieve. Arrive “on time”.
I feared being too late for my calling, my success, my destiny.

I was my toughest boss. Far tougher than any I had in my external workplaces.

However, I learned that true freedom came when I softened into trust:
Trust in life’s rhythm and cycle. Just like the season of trees losing their leaves and snakes shading their skin, when it is my time to transform, I need to surrender to the process and timing.
Trust in my soul’s pace.
Trust in the knowing that I was never being measured by a clock.

I was always unfolding in my perfect time. I have my own Divine timing for everything.

I am here to receive provision in freedom within my authenticity 

I once believed I had to give before I could receive.

This was one of my deepest wounds – inherited, lived, and repeated:
The belief that I must prove my value before being supported.
That I had to work first… then be provided for.
That I could only receive when I’d already given.

This distorted programming made me overextend.
It placed pressure on my body, my nervous system, and my trust in life.
It shaped how I related to others, to work, to rest, and to Source.

Finally, something in me broke free and I now see:
Provision is not a transaction.
It is a birthright.
I am not here to earn love, safety, or support.
I am here to receive them – in freedom – as I live in my truth/authenticity.

Money is about safety – not about worth or love

For a long time, I had no relationship with money, even when I needed it to live.
I didn’t trust it. I didn’t want to depend on it.
I didn’t believe it had anything to do with my values – because it didn’t.

But over time, I came to see that money is not the enemy.
It is not a mirror of my worth.
It is not a substitute for love either.

It is one of the many ways safety can arrive in my physical form.
When held with integrity, money becomes a neutral – even sacred – energy.
It is a resource that supports my nervous system to soften, rest, and create from a place of fullness.

Money is not about who I am.
It is simply one of many ways life flows toward me.

Authenticity moves hearts more than striving ever could

The feedbacks that stay with me the most in all these years are not about my output.
It’s about my presence.

When I resigned from the Bank – unexpectedly, at least to others – my HR manager said, “I knew something was up just by observing you in meetings. You weren’t your usual self for some time”.

His words stayed with me.
They reminded me: Impact doesn’t begin with doing. It begins with being.

Authenticity creates connections.
It speaks louder than performance.
It carries a frequency that striving never can.

Burnout was a sacred threshold, not a failure

Seventeen years ago, deep physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual exhaustion cracked me open.
It felt like a collapse at the time.

Now, I see it for what it was: A portal. A breaking open. A holy pause.

It was the invitation to lay down the burden of trying to earn safety.
Through over-giving.
Through relentless doing.
Through self-abandonment.

Burnout was not the end.
It was the moment I was called back to myself.

True success is living joyfully in alignment with my soul

True success for me is not applause.
It is not just productivity and achievement.
It is not how many people I manage or help, or how well I’m seen.

It is peace in my heart.
Softness and depth in my breath.
Most deeply, the quiet embodiment that being who I am has always been enough.

Today, I continue to work.
Not to prove my worth.
Not to justify my dreams.
Not to belong.

I work from a different place now.
Work is no longer a test of how far I’ve come or can go.
It is a celebration of the essence that lives within me: Overflowing. Rooted. Free. 

If my younger self could see me now, I think she would smile and exhale, finally feeling safe to just be.

Whispers from my heart to yours

I offer this reflection to you, who are walking your own unique path of becoming.

Whether you’re a soul who has carried the weight of others for too long or one who has burned so much trying to arrive “on time”.

For a whisper only your heart can hear, may you remember:
You are unfolding in your own perfect rhythm.
May your work be an expression of your essence – not a measurement of your worth.
May your life feel like home.
May your breath feel like freedom.

If this reflection stirred something in you, I would be honored to hear your reflections.
You are always welcome to write to me, whenever your heart feels called.

With love,

Astuti

💛💜

 

“May the remembrance within you bloom in perfect time.”

 

P.S. Ready to live your true wealth? Explore Authentic Wealth Embodiment (AWE) here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/the-authentic-wealth-embodiment-program

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Living the sovereignty of patience

 

Living the Sovereignty of Patience

A transmission on timing, truth, and the power to move when it is time

 

The ache of being asked to wait

Be patient, they say.
When you’ve poured your heart out and heard nothing back.
When someone you love is unsure.
When a job interview goes silent.
When your body aches but healing takes time.
When the life you long for hasn’t arrived yet and you’re not sure if it will.

 

You try. You wait.

But, something inside you whispers…
This is not just waiting. This is something else.

For the first time, you wonder “Is this patience… or have I simply learned to stay still and put even when something or someone I wait for no longer meets me?”

What patience is not and what it truly is

Most of us were taught that being patient meant being good.
Sit still. Stay put.
Don’t complain.
Wait your turn.
Trust that it will all work out even if nothing changes.

We learned to stay quiet, even when we needed answers.
We stayed loyal, even when the direction had already shifted, not through words, but through absence, hesitation, or delay.
Even when the commitment was no longer alive, we kept showing up, hoping it would come back.

We didn’t want to seem difficult, or demanding, or ungrateful.

So…we waited because we were afraid to move.

We called that patience.

The fact is, this kind of patience is not presence.
It is tension in disguise.
It looks steady from the outside.

Inside however, we are holding back, holding on, holding our breaths.

We learned to wait like this because it once felt safer than being left behind.
It is because moving forward without certainty felt like too much to risk.

We stayed, and waited, and called it love, or loyalty, or faith, hoping it would keep us safe.

The truth is, real patience is not about putting our life on hold or dimming our voice while we wait for something to change.

Real patience is not:

  • Waiting for someone or something that’s no longer meeting us
  • Enduring silence and calling it trust
  • Staying in the same place because we don’t want to hurt anyone
  • Shrinking or slowing down our pace because someone else is not ready
  • Hoping things will change without checking if they’re still true

These aren’t signs of strength.
They’re signs that something in we have gone quiet because of the fear of uncertainy.

Real patience is steady and not stuck.
It is alive.
It knows when to breathe… and when to move.
It knows the difference between a pause that protects and a pause that drains.

True patience doesn’t ask us to wait endlessly.
It asks us to stay present:
present with our truth,
present with the moment,
present with ourselves.

Patience is not a waiting room.
Patience is a practice of noticing what is still aligned and what quietly is not anymore.

What true patience feels like when you’re aligned

When patience is rooted in alignment, it doesn’t feel like waiting.
It feels like living in your own timing  – grounded, present, and unhurried.

It is calm but not frozen.
It is still  but not shut down.

You can feel life moving, even when nothing has physically changed yet.

You’re not anxiously checking for updates, but you’re not pretending not to care either.

You’re present and honest with where things actually are.

True patience feels like:

  • Breathing fully, even in the unknown
  • Trusting your pace without trying to match someone else’s
  • Staying open without chasing
  • Holding space without abandoning yourself
  • Moving when it is time without waiting for permission

It is the knowing that you are still in your power, even when the outcome is unclear.
True patience is the difference between delaying your life and honoring your timing.

When patience is true, your mind is not spinning for answers. It is clear enough to be still.
Your heart is not grasping. It is steady, even if tender.
There is space inside you, not pressure.
And in that space, you can hear what is yours to do… and what is not.

Real patience feels like a steady inner signal:
“I’m here. I’m listening. I’ll move when it is time”

The moment you know it is time to move

Sometimes the most honest thing patience can do is end.

Not always with a dramatic goodbye.
But with a quiet clarity: “This is no longer true for me”

It doesn’t always come with warning.
It doesn’t always come with full closure, either.
But it does come with peace because your body stops holding its breath.
Then, you stop trying to stay where life no longer meets you.

You don’t need a reason that satisfies everyone.

You just feel the moment:

  • when the commitment is no longer mutual
  • when the silence no longer feels sacred
  • when your loyalty starts costing you your aliveness
  • when staying would mean leaving yourself

And before you move your body, you breathe differently.
It is the breath that reconnects you to yourself.

That one breath is the beginning.
The quiet leap.
The signal that you are no longer willing to delay your life for something that is not meeting you.

You don’t need a full plan to choose to move.
You only need one breath that tells the truth and the willingness to follow it.

When you move in alignment, you are no longer waiting.
You are living.
And in that living, you make space for what is truly meant for you to arrive.

Living the sovereignty of patience

Let these truths settle in you now as something to remember.

This is not a new concept to adopt. Instead, it is a return to how your body already knows.

Receive these as you read slowly and breathe them into your bones.

“You are allowed to stop waiting where waiting has become heavy.
You are allowed to move when the moment no longer mirrors your devotion.
You are allowed to stay in your own pace without apology.

Sovereign patience feels different.
It is not about how long you wait.
It is about how honestly you live inside each moment.

You no longer use stillness to prove your goodness.
You no longer shrink your life to avoid disappointing others.
You no longer abandon your knowing for the sake of being “patient”.

Instead, you become steady in your timing.
You feel what is true and you trust that feeling.
You let go of the wait when clarity arrives because you’re staying honest, not giving up.

You’re not afraid of the pause anymore because you know the difference between a pause that nourishes and a pause that drains.

You no longer wait from fear.
You move from knowing. And in that knowing, you breathe more easily.

You take up your full space again.
You create room for what can actually meet you fully, presently, and without delay.

You don’t rush.
You don’t shrink.
You simply live in your own time.

This is the sovereignty of patience”

Reflection invitations

  • Where in your life have you been calling something patience… but it no longer feels aligned?
  • What would shift if you trusted your own timing more than someone else’s pace?
  • What truth has been quietly asking you to move and are you ready to listen?

Whispers from my heart to yours

May you feel the breath that changes everything.
May you stop calling waiting a virtue when it costs you your peace.
May you move from the truth your body already knows.

May your timing be your own.
May your clarity be enough.
May your life meet you where you truly are.

If your body wishes to embody this truth more deeply, there is an audio transmission waiting for you.
It is a guided companion to help you remember how aligned patience sounds, feels, and moves through your nervous system.

Go here to access it via podcast (no sign in required)  https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Q7BEfUEviDXsUNCIFYMNg?si=l6Xzp_LVT1OQLJlCH6aIkQ

or on my online Sanctuary of Wholeness: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/sovereigntyofpatience

This is my gift to you. If you feel moved to offer a gift in return, you may do so from the same place this transmission lives: truth and love. You are welcome to do so through here: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/AstutiM

With love,

Astuti

💛💜

 

 

 

“May the remembrance within you bloom in perfect time.”

 

P.S. Ready to live your true wealth? Explore Authentic Wealth Embodiment (AWE) here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/the-authentic-wealth-embodiment-program

Click here for a free discovery call with Astuti: https://astuti-martosudirdjo.youcanbook.me/

Go here to find out more about her self-paced online programs: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/

 

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When Your Inner Voices Speak, Your Body Listens

 

When Your Inner Voices Speak, Your Body Listens

 

We often think of the body as something we “manage” – exercising, fuelling, resting.


But your body is far more than a machine. It’s a living mirror of your inner world.

Every time your mind, heart or soul speaks, your body responds.

Sometimes it’s in subtle ways: a clenched jaw, a restless leg, or a sudden warmth in the chest.

Other times, it’s unmistakable: tears with no story, goosebumps of truth, or a peace that doesn’t make sense.

Your body doesn’t just listen.

It translates your inner voices into sensations, signals, and patterns you can notice.

Why this matters in life, especially during transformation 

Understanding the messages from your mind, heart, body, and soul is not a luxury.

It’s a necessity, especially during times of transformation.

Change often brings confusion, resistance, and inner conflict.

Your mind might overthink, your heart might ache, your body might tense, and your soul might whisper truths you don’t yet understand.

If you don’t recognise which voice is speaking, it’s easy to feel lost or stuck.

And when these signals are ignored, the cost is high:

  • Burnout from pushing through the mind’s distortions.
  • Emotional shutdown from a heart that isn’t heard.
  • Chronic stress in the body that silently accumulates.
  • A sense of hollowness when the soul’s wisdom goes unanswered.

This is how old patterns repeat, even when we long for change.

When you can discern the authentic signals from the distorted ones, you begin to navigate transformation with clarity and trust.

You stop fighting yourself and start walking alongside your own inner guidance.

This is what allows real, lasting change to take root.

Authentic vs. Distorted: why it matters

One of the most important distinctions I share in this guide is between authentic expression and distorted patterns.

Authentic means your system is aligned with your truth. You feel grounded, clear, and at home within yourself – even in hard moments.

Distorted means your body is still trying to protect you, but from a place shaped by fear, pressure, or past wounds. It can feel tight, foggy, or disconnected.

Neither is wrong. Both are invitations.

Distortion isn’t failure.

It’s simply your body asking you to return to what’s true and authentic to you.

Why I created this guide

I created How Your Body Speaks When Your Inner Voices Speak as a practical tool for you to:

  • Recognize when your mind is in overdrive versus when it’s clear.
  • Notice how your heart opens authentically versus when it collapses in longing.
  • Listen for the quiet signals of your soul and discern them from disconnection.
  • Begin to walk the path of your authentic truth in real time.

It’s not about silencing any part of you.

It’s about letting your inner voices cooperate instead of competing so you can live with more unity, clarity, and power.

Download the Full Guide

I’ve made the full PDF available for you in my online sanctuary.

👉 Access How Your Body Speaks When Your Inner Voices Speak here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/howyourbodyspeaks

You’ll be asked to sign in. This is simply so you can receive the guide within a safe, dedicated space where all my resources live.

Once you enter, the guide is yours to download and explore anytime.

I invite you to spend time with it slowly. Notice which sections resonate most with your current season of life.

Your body has always been speaking. Will you listen now? 

With love,
Astuti

💛💜

 

 

 

“May the remembrance within you bloom in perfect time.”

 

P.S. Ready to live your true wealth? Explore Authentic Wealth Embodiment (AWE) here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/the-authentic-wealth-embodiment-program

Click here for a free discovery call with Astuti: https://astuti-martosudirdjo.youcanbook.me/

Go here to find out more about her self-paced online programs: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/

 

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When Love Costs Life

When Love Costs Life:

Healing The Hidden Wound In Parenting And Leadership

 

My invitation:

This is not a piece to read with your mind alone.
It is a remembrance to be felt with your whole being.
Let your breath slow. Let your body listen.
Let what resonates rise, and what doesn’t fall away.

You are here to meet what is true for you – in your own time, in your own way.

It’s common to hear people say,
“I live for my children”.
“Everything I do is for them”.

While the devotion is beautiful, it reveals something deeper: a belief that love must come through sacrifice.
That to be a good parent, leader, or guide, one must give everything – even at the cost of oneself.

But is that truly love?
Or is it a pattern that keeps us from showing the next generation what life could really be?

Love is a word we often misplace.

Many actions driven by fear, control, guilt, obligation, or even unhealed trauma are wrapped in the label of “love”.

When the label is misplaced, it creates confusion.
It teaches children and adults that love equals control.
That love equals self-abandonment.
That love demands sacrifice.

But real love is different.

Real love fuels life.
It expands.
It liberates.
It honors sovereignty.

What is love, really?

Love is not just a feeling, though it can be felt.
Love is not just a presence, though it can be sensed.
Love is not just a choice, though it asks to be chosen.

Love is a frequency. A living current.
It flows naturally when the truth of your being is allowed to exist.
It is what you return to when nothing is forced, fixed, or feared.

Love is the natural state of what remains when fear is gone.
It is not manufactured.
It is revealed.

You know it is love when:

  • You feel safe to be fully yourself.
  • You are not asked to shrink, betray, or abandon yourself to belong.
  • There is no game. No transaction.
  • You are seen without being managed.
  • You are honored even when you are different.
  • You expand in their presence, not disappear.
  • There is freedom in the bond, not fear of loss.

Love maybe messy and challenging, but it is clean.
It may bring up wounds, but it does not become the wound.
It invites healing, not reenactment.
It breathes truth, not distortion.

Love is not intensity.
Intensity can come from chaos, drama, or trauma.
Love – real love – is spacious.
It has depth without overwhelm.
Clarity without control.
Passion without possession.

Love is not just something we feel.
It is something we become.
When people become it, there is no need to prove it.

How can we tell when “love” is misplaced?

Here are a few simple self-check questions:

  • Does this action come from expansion or contraction? (Love expands. Fear contracts.)
  • Am I honoring my own truth, or abandoning myself to be accepted or needed?
  • Am I trying to control an outcome because I’m afraid of loss or rejection?
  • Would I still choose this if there were no guilt, fear, or expectation involved?
  • Is this about truly seeing and supporting the other person or about fulfilling my own unhealed needs?

When we pause and ask ourselves these questions, we begin to see clearly.
True love does not diminish life. It breathes life into us.

True love says:
“I want to see you fully alive, even if that means you choose differently than I would”.

The high cost of smallness

When a parent erases themselves for their child, the child often grows up carrying invisible burdens:

  • Feeling responsible for their parent’s happiness.
  • Believing that thriving comes at the cost of someone else’s well-being.
  • Learning that love equals self-abandonment.
  • Shrinking themselves to stay safe or belong.

Very often, children unconsciously self-sabotage their own success, happiness, or authenticity out of loyalty to their parents’ patterns.
It becomes an unspoken contract: “If you couldn’t live fully, I won’t either”.
“If you stayed small for me, I’ll stay small for you”.

This misplaced loyalty is not love.
It is a distortion that keeps generation after generation trapped in cycles of limitation.

We must stop hiding behind our children as an excuse for our own smallness.

Choosing vitality, wholeness, and freedom is not selfish.

It is leadership. It is the breaking of an invisible chain.

This smallness is expensive.

It costs us mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

It robs us of vitality, joy, and true connection – not just individually, but across entire family lines.

The price is too high.

Authenticity is the real inheritance

The real wealth we can pass on is not financial security alone.
The real wealth is existence based on authenticity; living truths.

A parent (or leader, or mentor) who chooses to live fully – who says yes to their own truth, health, dreams, and beingness – is a living proof to their child (and their members):

  • It’s safe to exist.
  • It’s safe to be whole.
  • It’s safe to thrive without guilt.

When we live authentically, we model a life where love and life are not in opposition.

We break the old contract that says “I must die inside so you can live”.
Instead, we birth a new one: “I will live fully, and in doing so, show you that you can too”.

An invitations to parents and to all of us

If you’re a parent, remember:
Your life is not a debt to be paid. Your life is a gift to be lived.

To the rest of us, remember:
You are still shaping the world the next generation will inherit.


The more you embody your authentic self, the more space you create for the next generation to do the same.

We don’t need more martyrs.
We need more living, breathing, sovereign souls who show that life itself is sacred.

When love costs our vitality, it is no longer love.
When love fuels our life, it becomes an endless source of freedom.

Reflection questions:

  • Where have I inherited the belief that love must equal sacrifice or smallness?
  • In what ways have I unconsciously stayed small out of loyalty to my parents’ or ancestors’ patterns?
  • What has it already cost me – mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually – to stay small?
  • What would change if I declared my existence sacred and chose to live fully, without guilt?
  • What true wealth could I create and pass forward if I embodied my authentic self now?

At the heart of our existence – beneath the work, the parenting, the choices, the longing – is the call to come home to love.
It is the one truth beneath all wars and all healing.

The absence of love fractures us.
The presence of love restores us.

When love is real and alive, it fuels more than money ever could, reaches further than status ever will, and heals deeper than power ever has.

This transmission is not a demand to believe, but an invitation to be received.
May you meet this transmission in a way that is true to you.
Let it speak to what is ready. Let it pass by what is not.

You may also receive this as an audio transmission – voiced in my own breath and rhythm, and infused with 528 Hz – the frequency of love, restoration, and remembrance.
Let this truth not only be read, but felt. Heard. Received by your body.

Listen on Spotify (no sign-in required) or here (to be able to download the audio file) https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/whenlovecostslife

This is a gift. You may receive it freely. If you feel moved to offer something in return, you’re welcome to make a donation in the amount that feels true for you here.

 

May the love you remember – and become – be the most powerful legacy you offer the world 💛💜

With love,
Astuti

 

 

 

“May the remembrance within you bloom in perfect time.”

 

P.S. Ready to live your true wealth? Explore Authentic Wealth Embodiment (AWE) here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/the-authentic-wealth-embodiment-program

Click here for a free discovery call with Astuti: https://astuti-martosudirdjo.youcanbook.me/

Go here to find out more about her self-paced online programs: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/

 

#LifeCoach #SubconsciousReprogramming #Transformation #UpliftMyLifeToday #AWE #LoveWins #AuthenticWealth #Authentic #Love #UnconditionalLove #UnconditionalSelfLove #SoulfulSexuality #Authenticity #Freedom #Belonging #Wealth #Money #Embodiment #AncestralTrauma #SystemicHealing #Selflove #AstutiMartosudirdjo#Inspiration #Podcast #UpliftingStory

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