How courageous are you in receiving love?

 

 

Children are such amazing mirrors of true human nature.

Leo, my nephew, is one of these mirrors for me. He just turned four recently.

Being with him, I am reminded again how intuitively and generously loving the human heart is.

 

Leo loves because he loves it.

He loves being loved because he loves it.

It gives him joy when he gives and receives love. His smile and the expression in his eyes tell it all.

 

As an adult, my inner work has been to learn to be more courageous in allowing more and deeper love to flow in and to bask and enjoy being in it as long as possible.

 

I let go of layers of deeply rooted beliefs that block me from experiencing the natural joy of exchanging love, such as „A good person is a giver, not a taker“, „Sacrifice is the highest form of love“, or „I can only be happy when the people I love are happy“ or „No one truly gets me“ etc. etc.

 

 

Throughout this journey, I observe that there is so much we misunderstand about love.

 

We grew up with a misconception about the relationship between love and how we connect with others.

 

We have been taught that they are one of the same, and I don‘t believe it is true.

 

 

My biggest lesson to date is that it is possible to love someone and choose not to have them in my life; it is possible to continue loving someone who hurt me and keeps them out of my life. It is possible to continue loving others without accepting nor tolerating their unhealthy and disrespectful behaviours.

 

Why do I feel that it is crucial to understand this?

Because we are healthiest and most vibrant when love flows through us continuously.

To clear out what blocks this flow of love is what essentially life is for – a continuous effort to feel emotions courageously, to make space for inner re-attunement, upgrade beliefs, forgive, and make healthier choices are required.

 

 

It is OUR CALL to come back to love regularly and decide on how to relate to others healthily.

 

We can love without allowing others to disrespect us.

 

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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Finally free! Adam’s healing journey from chronic depression and substance abuse.

 

 

 

 

Silently carrying chronic depression, addiction, shame and guilt for decades while living, appearing to be functioning well with good achievements, is the story of many.

This was also the story of Adam, who courageously shared his journey to face his suffering head-on and turn his life around.

 

 

Sitting with Julie Grauel and me in one of our “The Honest Hour” podcast episodes, Adam openly shared what happened to his childhood, formative years and the adult period before he decided to start his journey to heal himself. 

He also shared his deep inner work to get to the root causes of chronic depression and substance abuse so he could gradually heal them and create a new lifestyle. Click here to listen.

Adam also wrote a part of his healing journey briefly here.

 

 

Please share this story with people in your circle who may need to hear or read this.

I truly believe this may inspire and strengthen our faith in ourselves to do the same.

 

With love,
Astuti

 

Let me know what you think about this episode via astuti@upliftmylife.today

Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com). 

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License 

 

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A message from Love: Your heart is not fragile.

 

 

 

Did you ever see an ocean break down?

A dam? Yes. An ocean? No.

 

Our heart field is like an ocean – powerful, deep, vast and expansive. 

You can navigate through and within it yet never control it.

 

Water’s nature is to flow. Even when the ocean feels calm, there is still movement and flow within it. 

The same is with our heart field.

 

We grew up being told and taught that our heart is fragile.

We believed it because we did not know how to work through emotions, intense emotions, and pain.

We believed it because we were stuck in the loops of painful and intense emotions in our bodies that kept playing out like the event was still happening.

 

Our subconscious mind operates in alignment with our beliefs – any belief that is intended to keep us safe. 

When we believe that our heart is fragile, it creates walls to protect our hearts, layer over layer over layer over time. 

It gives us an illusion that we are safer this way when in actuality, it stops us from feeling love, life and alive. 

It hinders the love that anyway will break the walls because it is an expansive and powerful energy.

 

What heartbreak essentially means is not the breaking of the heart. 

It is instead the breaking of the temporary, fragile walls that need to go so you can feel love and be YOU again.

 

Let the walls break down, just like the dam, and let the truth land in your body, heart, and mind: YOU ARE LOVE.

With this truth, learn the skills to move through intense emotions and pain, enjoy the process, and claim the wisdom it offers. 

YOU ARE LOVE.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Rumi: Heartbreak to open your heart

 

 

If you are in pain right now as you read this, I hear you. I feel you.

Keep going through this passage while breathing through the pain.

 

As certain as the storm passes, heartache does too.

Don’t overthink it, not when you are in pain.

Just be with the pain, feel it, breathe it, and it will subside.

 

Then, you will feel the love that has been waiting to flow into your heart.

Let love flows in.

Your heart is wide open now and ready to start healing and expanding.

 

 

Holding the space from here…

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: I am safe.

 

 

Letting go of toxicity in our life is daunting. This is why many don’t do it until it gets to a point where it is unbearable.

Such difficulty is rooted in the habit of tolerating the situation, the person, the substance, or whatever it is that contributes to the toxicity, little by little for too long, that we become used to it. In severe cases, we become toxic ourselves. 

Until something profound happens to wake us up to this situation. 

 

 

That is usually when love flows into our lives.

Love is safe – even when it shakes us open and awake.

Love reminds us of what can be instead. 

Love opens up paths to what is possible. 

Yet, when this happens, we often feel scared.

 

Be sure that you are clear about what you feel scared of.

Be clear that it is not LOVE that you are scared of, but the breakdown of what is less than love: old habits, mindsets, structure, personality, etc. – all that you’ve built for so long, believing that this was the right thing to do. 

 

The breakdown of your OLD/PAST self brings up fears.

As you have clarity about what you fear, you can face and move through it with focus.

 

 

The truth is love STRENGTHENS and EXPANDS what you have built when it is in alignment with your soul. Even within this movement, we continuously break down a part of us that no longer serves us.

When who and what you are is not in alignment with your soul, love BREAKS it DOWN for you. Usually, it happens like a tornado or earthquake – fast, furious, uninvited, or unexpected.

It comes when your soul calls it in, bypassing your mind!

 

 

The beauty of life is that the Universe is always working with and for you. Keep this perspective as you work through the steps of rebirth or rebuilding.

At the end of the day, your soul is always attracting love because it is love 💖

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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How am I being loved today?

 

 

Perspective is everything.

How we feel is driven by our perspective.

 

Your perspective is driven by the question you ask yourself.

Choose these questions wisely.

 

When you wish to embody more love in your life, ask yourself this question: “How am I being loved today?”

Ask it often, every day.

 

Loved by who? 

By anything or anyone. There is no limit.

How am I being loved by my child today?
How am I being loved by the barista who made my coffee this morning?
How am I being loved by my client today?

How am I being loved by the foggy morning?

How am I being loved by me?

Etc…etc…

 

 

It is all about creating a habit of asking the right question, so you see what is through a loving lens 💖

Wishing you a great day, feeling loved abundantly by life!

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: In solitude, you’d find me.

 

 

Solitude is that sweet space within us where we connect intimately with ourselves, specifically with whichever part of us shows up at that moment. It is also a sacred space where we find solace within ourselves.

 

 

Solitude is aloneness without feeling lonely. It is an embodiment of inner silence where we choose to observe, accept, and honour who and what we are.

 

This is the sweet spot where we treasure our own company and feel grateful for who we have become until that point.

 

Solitude takes us on a dynamic journey within; it invites us to open our hearts and connect with something deeper within us that gives us energy and meaning: LOVE 🧡💙

 

Solitude connects us with love already within us, beyond any blockage that may exist.

 

As we have a strong and unbreakable bond with the love within us, we are free to love others unconditionally.

 

 

Yes, we can!

Enjoy your inner quest 💜

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: You choose freedom when you choose me

 

 

Disappointment, regret, anger, shame, fear and guilt are some sticky confining bonds that keep us stuck in unhealthy, looping automatic patterns.

 

Not only do these bonds keep us out of the present moment, but they are also draining, exhausting, and depressing us. They chain us down and suck the life energy out of us. Like there is a permanent leak or leakages in our energy systems.

 

Over time, these may develop into physical discomfort and illnesses. Burnout symptoms show up.

 

Over time, the feeling of “I am not myself anymore” rises and stays as a tune that stays with us unless we stop it.

 

 

Come back home; to love and to your heart!

 

Yes, the journey to come home may ask a lot of effort, yet this is the best investment we can make for our well-being. 

 

Make this choice – to come back to love, so you can be free… to be yourself, be in your life at present, and immerse yourself in this beautiful journey called life.

 

 

Cheering for you!

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: I deepen and expand your essence.

 

 

We often get mixed up in understanding love.

 

Love catalyses us, growing both deeper and bigger in our path. 

When we let love in, our souls wake up.

 

Such awakening is usually preceded and/ or followed by changes, discomfort, and destruction – of all that is not aligned or created by and in love. 

 

Hidden, secret and/or suppressed emotions and beliefs that have kept us attached, stuck, mediocre, small – resisting/denying/delaying expansion – would rise to be processed and healed.

All this is inevitable. It is how the process runs and we have no control over it.

 

Such experience, however,  invites us to respond in the healthiest way. It is to trust our intuition in going through such a profound phase. 

To resist less, instead, trust our inner voice more and work with what is available. To use different parts of what and who we are to establish dynamic equilibrium throughout this journey.

 

We are all wholesome beings.

We have all that we need and want within us.

Access them in and through gratitude.

Have and keep the faith.

 

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: I wake you up.

 

 

No, love is not blind. Infatuation makes us “blind“. Not love.

 

The opposite is true. Love brings the truth out – about who and what we are. 

 

Love has no condition. It is super powerful, unstoppable, profound and life lasting. You can’t undo and un-know what rises.

 

It helps us get clarity even when we don’t like or want the truth’s consequences brought up. Moreover, it always offers options – to be or do something different.

 

 

Remember – when you feel this energy, it is because your soul asks for it. 

Nothing and no one outside of you can impose or give this to you. They are conduits for this to happen, nothing more.

It simply means your soul is waking up.

Regardless of the shock and surprise, it is a beautiful and miraculous experience. I am VERY happy for you 💖

 

Enjoy your journey home!

With love,
Astuti

 

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