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Love…oh love!

 

 

Love… oh love 💖

 

Even though every day is a love day, I’d like to wish you a day filled with love – for YOURSELF and with your loved ones.

 

Self-love and self-care have been consistent topics with clients all last week.

Belief reprogramming was needed to help them show up for THEMSELVES with much more LOVE and CARE.

 

Today, I’d share some thoughts and tips for you to celebrate YOU this week:

HONESTY– can be scary, yet it is also liberating. What more can you do to love yourself than liberate your heart?

 

The other four tips in the 2nd photo are there to inspire you to care for yourself this week.

Choose one or all of them 😊 ENJOY!

 

 

On a personal note:

I started to enjoy sound healing at the end of 2021, which is JUST wonderful 🥰

Go to youtube to try it, or look for someone local to you and experience it. It is amazing!

 

Have a wonderful Valentine’s day!

 

With love,

Astuti

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Does your help disempower others?

 

 

 

“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.”
– Maya Angelou

 
«So, does your help empower or disempower her?”

My world stopped when I heard this question.
 
It was 2012. My Father passed away suddenly a few months prior, and I intended to support my mother as she grieved. What I experienced was a lot of friction, painful friction, instead.
 
It was not an understatement that I felt horrified by this question and what I realized.
 

Immediately, I could see clearly how I supported my mother disempowered her.
How I approached her with a “solution” disturbed her process of connecting with her strengths– the strength that I have always admired and respected.
 

“Can you see how arrogant you are?” My therapist asked me. “You think you know better.”
 

With a mixture of peeved and shock, I uttered. “Yes”.
Then tears started to stream down my face.
“I do not mean to disempower nor disrespect my mother. I am very sorry”.
 

The incredible thing about this was that I could breathe well at that moment. Like I was relieved. I knew the truth was spoken then.

It was true; the whole thing was true. I thought I knew better, and yes, the word for it was “arrogance”.
No, it was not easy to be called arrogant, yet looking at what happened, I was.
 
I was horrified to discover that my desire to support my mother resulted in disempowerment. I love my mother with all my heart.
 
I don’t want to disempower people. I also don’t want to disempower myself.
When I disempower others, I actually disempower myself.
 
 
This was the beginning of such a humbling inward journey to be more honest with me.
My grief brought me to a deeper understanding of where I was at in my life then. Doors of expansion opened up as I went deeper into myself during this time.
 
 
I discovered that underneath my desire to help my mother, I had a deep suppressed fear – the fear of losing my mother.

This was a very familiar fear, a long companion in my life.
 
My (now late) mother had a chronic illness. Throughout my life, I experienced a few times when she did not feel she could make it. Each time this happened, the fear of losing my mother grew. Over time, this fear was wrapped up in an exquisite packaging of “I am strong, and I can help or fix the situation”. For my young heart, this was more “empowering” than “I am scared my mother is going to die”.

I lived unconsciously in this narrative. I became a “problem solver”; a “crisis manager”; a “destructor and rebuilder”.  It became a part of my identity.

Little did I realize that this came from a debilitating fear of losing my mother at a young age.
 
The more truthful way to describe the situation was, “I want my mother to be well so I can be well too”.
 
 

Then, I started doing the inner work to heal the childhood trauma and unresolved wounds that fed the deep fear of losing my mother. The truth is that human is mortal; everyone that comes here will leave.
 
 
Since then, I regularly do a double take whenever I support or help others – I check in with myself about what makes it important for me to do so and how I can do it in an empowering way for both of us. Life has been so much more light and enriching for me since.
 

Little did I know that such a healing journey also became highly beneficial for my professional life.
A few years later, I chose to change my career direction and started a profession requiring deep interaction with others – helping them move THEMSELVES from fear into safety – within.
 
This was when I decided to be a catalyst for others – as it is about my client’s life, not mine.
 

Why am I sharing this with you?

Most of you connected to me through this newsletter tend to be Givers, Helpers and Carers for others. It is a noble choice when it is done in an honest, balanced and empowering way.

This sharing is an invitation for you to reflect on whether the reason and how you show up for others are empowering for you both.
 
This clarity will change your life for the better. This, I can assure you.

When you discover that there is a fear associated with the role you choose to take on, please, start your healing journey. This would be, hands down, the best investment you’ll ever make in your life.
 
Take good care of yourself.
Showing up for others can be done in an uplifting way.

 

Please join me in sending my late mother, Widayati, loving energy as with her support, I could share this lesson with you and make the journey into life with much more love and less fear. Thank you.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

p.s. If you need support, feel free to set up a call with me here.

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A message from Love: Follow where I flow. It always takes you HOME.

 

 

 

A message from Love – “Follow where I flow. It always takes you HOME.”

Home sweet home – our heart and soul – where fulfilment and joy grow.

 

As we courageously choose love daily instead of fear, we won’t ever feel lost. Insecure, anxious and nervous, possibly, but never lost.

 

Yes, the journey home is filled with many lessons and surprises, pleasant and unpleasant. Yet, rest assured, when it is love that we follow, it always leads us to our safest and warmest place – our heart.

 

Wishing you all a wonderful week filled with love-driven choices 🤗

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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Transforming physical and emotional pains into PEACE

It was March 2022. I resigned from my job as I desperately needed a break. I knew my body and mind were in so much pain, but I could not tell exactly why.

 

During the break, I gradually realized I had been ignoring my emotions and, worse, holding so much anger towards my dad. Apparently, I still could not accept the decision he made a decade ago, which to my extreme disappointment, he repeated just the year before.

Since then, his actions always triggered strong negative emotions in me. Over those years, I had tried different ways to heal, yet nothing really worked. I knew my anger constantly tortured me, but I was helpless.

 

I came to know Astuti from my brother. He shared how she was very helpful in helping him cope with fear. He only shared briefly, but the story stuck with me for days. I had a strong feeling that I should contact Astuti.

Astuti recommended a hypnotherapy session, which surprised me a bit as I expected a Body Code treatment that my brother had. I had tried hypnotherapy in the past with hardly any results.

Astuti was patient in explaining the process and why I needed it. There was something in her that made me intuitively trust her.

Throughout the hypnotherapy session, I was relaxed yet fully aware of what was happening. Emotions were running high, but I was given sufficient time and space to process them. There was a sense of relief immediately after the session, but little did I know the session would transform my life in a way I never imagined.

 

After I completed the full treatment, the negative emotions disappeared. I felt at ease with myself and, therefore, at ease with my dad. As my reactions towards his attitude changed, his attitude changed positively. Our relationship significantly improved – something I wouldn’t even dare to dream of in the past.

What I did not expect was I became a lot happier and kinder as a person. I enjoyed life and relationships more than I had ever. There were even a series of pleasant surprises financially.

It is fair to say that I have never been so at ease in life until the session with Astuti.

 

To me, it is a million-dollar feeling as now I have the confidence to face and embrace life. I feel free. I am making conscious efforts to live my life in ways that I know are worthwhile.

 

After the first hypnotherapy session, I continue to work on different aspects of my life with Astuti through Body Code sessions. The results have been astonishing, and I have grown even more committed to this journey.

I highly recommend Astuti for helping you be the best version of yourself.

I wish you a fulfilling journey with her.

 

May all of us be at peace,

 

NN

Jakarta, Indonesia

A message from Life: I am a mystery to be lived.

 

 

 

Wishing you peace as you experience the mystery of life you are in right now 💖

 

Cheering you on as I am convinced that there is a precious gift in it for you to claim😊🙏💖

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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Holiday season greetings

 

 

I wish that the shift and transformation that have happened in 2022 offer you a solid and strong foundation for the life that you continue to unfold during the 2023 cycle 🙏🙏🙏

 

In the meantime, may you enjoy this holiday season with your loved ones, feeling a lot more peaceful and content – deeply resting, recharging and rejuvenating.

 

It‘s been an honour to share the journey this year with you and look forward to continuing it.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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How courageous are you in receiving love?

 

 

Children are such amazing mirrors of true human nature.

Leo, my nephew, is one of these mirrors for me. He just turned four recently.

Being with him, I am reminded again how intuitively and generously loving the human heart is.

 

Leo loves because he loves it.

He loves being loved because he loves it.

It gives him joy when he gives and receives love. His smile and the expression in his eyes tell it all.

 

As an adult, my inner work has been to learn to be more courageous in allowing more and deeper love to flow in and to bask and enjoy being in it as long as possible.

 

I let go of layers of deeply rooted beliefs that block me from experiencing the natural joy of exchanging love, such as „A good person is a giver, not a taker“, „Sacrifice is the highest form of love“, or „I can only be happy when the people I love are happy“ or „No one truly gets me“ etc. etc.

 

 

Throughout this journey, I observe that there is so much we misunderstand about love.

 

We grew up with a misconception about the relationship between love and how we connect with others.

 

We have been taught that they are one of the same, and I don‘t believe it is true.

 

 

My biggest lesson to date is that it is possible to love someone and choose not to have them in my life; it is possible to continue loving someone who hurt me and keeps them out of my life. It is possible to continue loving others without accepting nor tolerating their unhealthy and disrespectful behaviours.

 

Why do I feel that it is crucial to understand this?

Because we are healthiest and most vibrant when love flows through us continuously.

To clear out what blocks this flow of love is what essentially life is for – a continuous effort to feel emotions courageously, to make space for inner re-attunement, upgrade beliefs, forgive, and make healthier choices are required.

 

 

It is OUR CALL to come back to love regularly and decide on how to relate to others healthily.

 

We can love without allowing others to disrespect us.

 

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: Your heart is not fragile.

 

 

 

Did you ever see an ocean break down?

A dam? Yes. An ocean? No.

 

Our heart field is like an ocean – powerful, deep, vast and expansive. 

You can navigate through and within it yet never control it.

 

Water’s nature is to flow. Even when the ocean feels calm, there is still movement and flow within it. 

The same is with our heart field.

 

We grew up being told and taught that our heart is fragile.

We believed it because we did not know how to work through emotions, intense emotions, and pain.

We believed it because we were stuck in the loops of painful and intense emotions in our bodies that kept playing out like the event was still happening.

 

Our subconscious mind operates in alignment with our beliefs – any belief that is intended to keep us safe. 

When we believe that our heart is fragile, it creates walls to protect our hearts, layer over layer over layer over time. 

It gives us an illusion that we are safer this way when in actuality, it stops us from feeling love, life and alive. 

It hinders the love that anyway will break the walls because it is an expansive and powerful energy.

 

What heartbreak essentially means is not the breaking of the heart. 

It is instead the breaking of the temporary, fragile walls that need to go so you can feel love and be YOU again.

 

Let the walls break down, just like the dam, and let the truth land in your body, heart, and mind: YOU ARE LOVE.

With this truth, learn the skills to move through intense emotions and pain, enjoy the process, and claim the wisdom it offers. 

YOU ARE LOVE.

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Rumi: Heartbreak to open your heart

 

 

If you are in pain right now as you read this, I hear you. I feel you.

Keep going through this passage while breathing through the pain.

 

As certain as the storm passes, heartache does too.

Don’t overthink it, not when you are in pain.

Just be with the pain, feel it, breathe it, and it will subside.

 

Then, you will feel the love that has been waiting to flow into your heart.

Let love flows in.

Your heart is wide open now and ready to start healing and expanding.

 

 

Holding the space from here…

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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A message from Love: I am safe.

 

 

Letting go of toxicity in our life is daunting. This is why many don’t do it until it gets to a point where it is unbearable.

Such difficulty is rooted in the habit of tolerating the situation, the person, the substance, or whatever it is that contributes to the toxicity, little by little for too long, that we become used to it. In severe cases, we become toxic ourselves. 

Until something profound happens to wake us up to this situation. 

 

 

That is usually when love flows into our lives.

Love is safe – even when it shakes us open and awake.

Love reminds us of what can be instead. 

Love opens up paths to what is possible. 

Yet, when this happens, we often feel scared.

 

Be sure that you are clear about what you feel scared of.

Be clear that it is not LOVE that you are scared of, but the breakdown of what is less than love: old habits, mindsets, structure, personality, etc. – all that you’ve built for so long, believing that this was the right thing to do. 

 

The breakdown of your OLD/PAST self brings up fears.

As you have clarity about what you fear, you can face and move through it with focus.

 

 

The truth is love STRENGTHENS and EXPANDS what you have built when it is in alignment with your soul. Even within this movement, we continuously break down a part of us that no longer serves us.

When who and what you are is not in alignment with your soul, love BREAKS it DOWN for you. Usually, it happens like a tornado or earthquake – fast, furious, uninvited, or unexpected.

It comes when your soul calls it in, bypassing your mind!

 

 

The beauty of life is that the Universe is always working with and for you. Keep this perspective as you work through the steps of rebirth or rebuilding.

At the end of the day, your soul is always attracting love because it is love 💖

 

With love,

Astuti

 

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