Drop the responsibilites that do not belong to you!



Hello again!
It’s so lovely to connect with you in this edition of the newsletter.
Let me start by sharing with you that the 3rd session of The Unconditional Self-Love Embodiment program is ready for you to access.

It is one to emphasize my recommendation to you to be discerning when it comes to responsibility.

The focus of this session is on healthy RESPONSIBILITY – taking on fully what is ours and letting go of fully what is not.

I know you know this can be a challenging experience for you.
It was very difficult for me. The part that was very difficult was to let go of the responsibility that did not belong to me.
Over-responsibility was a part of my identity growing up.
It was not called that; no one called it that.
It was just a consistent explicit and implicit expectation that was placed upon me by so many different people – starting from my parents to my grandparents to my extended family to school systems, to social circles, etc.
I don’t believe they saw it as harmful.

I genuinely believe they were convinced that it was good, actually very good, for me to be able to handle a lot in life.
When I am strong, the chance that I’ll be fine in life is higher.
It served me well until I collapsed in burnout. 
The thing about burnout, the actual burnout, is that when you experience it, you collapse on many levels.
Your mind is largely disconnected from your body and your heart.
To experience this once was enough for me.
I was a single woman living alone in Zurich when that happened. This living situation amplified the intensity of the experience.
As I faced the causes of burnout layer after layer, I needed to make healthier and more loving decisions for myself.
One of the most difficult decisions for me at the time was to commit to myself 1000% from then on, I will do all that I can ONLY to assume responsibilities that belong to me and let the rest fall away.
This decision triggered so many fears and feelings of guilt. I had been living with an over-responsibility identity for almost 30 years. I did not know any different!
Yet, I knew that if I didn’t change this, I would experience another burnout at some point in the future, and this time, it would get uglier.
Loving ourselves unconditionally means that we honour ourselves and others. 
Responsibility carries power.
Over-responsibility means overpowering.
Someone or something in connection to us experiences disempowerment when we take on their responsibilities.
I had to let go of so many unconscious habits and patterns that block me from honouring myself and others by taking on responsibility in a healthy way.
This 3rd session helps you embody the proper RESPONSIBILITY of the primary provider of unconditional self-love in your life healthily, with more ease, peace, and joy. The subconscious mind reprogramming will help you to let go of the habits of assuming other people’s responsibility and also to own up to yourself when you have difficulty doing so.
I wish you an incredible journey!

Remember to take as much time as you need to complete it. Come back to it as many times as you need.

Do not forget to subscribe to the Uplift My Life Today YouTube channel so you will be notified when I release the video there. Remember also to share it with others.

Thank you so much, and I’ll see you again in the next newsletter…soon!


In gratitude and with love,


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Your heart matters for everyone – 2nd session of Unconditional Self-Love Embodiment is ready!




Hello again,

Thank you so much for your heart-warming emails and voicemails. I feel very loved, and I am grateful 🥰🥰🥰

I also appreciate your feedback about the gift (this program) – it truly got me excited hearing that you are going to check it out. Do enjoy it, and let me know what you think and feel about it.

I’ve been thinking about how I can support humanity to heal with the hope that wars eventually will be much more rare or even nonexistent.


I’ve come to the conclusion that the more hearts heal (even when we do not experience wars), the more we and the Earth embody love; therefore, the faster the collective subconscious programming will shift to become more love-driven.


When we heal our hearts—it is our heart—it does not need permission from others. Yet, the impact of a healing and healed heart multiplies by hundreds or thousands or more, IMPACTING humanity collectively.


On the journey, we don’t need to discuss, argue, or disagree with anyone.

It is a peaceful way to change the world, and we are the focus of it. As the late Michael Jackson said, “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.”


You may not realize the extent of the positive impact you have when you heal your heart.


I do!

For years, I’ve witnessed how my clients’ healing journeys changed the dynamics of their families and extended family. There was much more love energy within the family and their systems.

Like them, I’ve experienced for many years how my personal healing impacts my family (across generations), extended family, and the systems I belong to. It impacts my relationships with my clients, my friends, and everyone around me. I consider it my legacy to have contributed more love to my family systems.


What I’ve witnessed and experienced supports what my friend Mo Gawdat, who wrote the book Solve for Happy, discovered about supporting one billion people to be happier.

He calculated what it would take to reach that goal practically, and he said that all it would take would be for everyone who reads the book to tell two other people about it.


You matter in more ways than you can imagine!


Within the next few weeks, you’ll be hearing a bit more often from me than usual.
I’ve done what I can to make this a worthwhile reading for you. 


The second session of the “Unconditional Self-love Embodiment program” is ready for you.

The further you go into the program, the “meatier” the content will be.
I am mindful of the importance of building up your inner muscles as you go through this journey.


While the first session was about you assessing your current state of unconditional love, you also confirmed your choice to become the primary/main provider of unconditional love for yourself. 

This has many implications, and through the next few sessions, I will provide you with a journey to embody some of them.


The second session is to help you create more inner space so you can embody the role of the main/primary provider of unconditional self-love. It will ask you to reflect on the dynamics of your existing relationship with others, strengthen your forgiveness muscles, and reprogram your subconscious mind to let go of the past with much more ease.

Doing this will help you create a much larger space to connect and hold love in your heart.


I wish you a great journey!
Remember to take as much time as you need to complete it. Come back to it as many times as you need.

I offer you something profound, and it may require you to sleep over these questions to answer them to the depth that is good for you.

Regardless, you are choosing you, and I love you for that.


Do not forget to subscribe to the Uplift My Life Today YouTube channel so you will be notified when I release the video there. Remember also to share it with others.

Thank you so much, and I’ll see you again in the next newsletter…soon!


In gratitude and with love,


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It’s my birthday and I have a gift for YOU!






It’s my 50th birthday (!!!), and I have a WONDERFUL gift for YOU!

And this gift comes from the depth of my heart!
As I start today dedicated to celebrating my life, my growth, who I’ve become and my cherished relationships with the people in my life now, I feel utterly grateful.
My fifty-year journey on this planet has been intense and fast, with one central theme: “unconditional self-love embodiment”.
Fifty years have gone by so quickly – I can hardly believe it!!!


Being here today, healthy, happy, fulfilled, with a lot of richness in my soul, while feeling very excited for the opening chapter, I got tearful thinking of many people who have played important roles in the past five decades.

They came into my life as family, friends, teachers, healers, mentors, mentees, coaches, clients, colleagues, and others.
Many of them are still here, alive and well. Some are still in my life, and many have passed away.
Without their heartfelt participation and love, I would not be where I am today, feeling what I am feeling.


To honour them, I decided to offer a gift to anyone who wishes to have support in deepening their unconditional self-love.


I created a free online transformational self-paced program called “Unconditional Self-Love Embodiment”, which I published on YouTube. It is available for free to anyone who speaks English 😁.
The embodiment of unconditional self-love will help us all stay grounded and centred as we navigate life in a world that is currently in turmoil and change.

It is a program of multiple sessions I’m dropping in a playlist called “Unconditional Self-Love Embodiment”. They are starting with two videos  (Introduction and Session 1) today, and I will release more videos over the next few weeks. This journey will reprogramme both your conscious and subconscious minds.


If this speaks to you, please follow this link to start, and please join me in sending love to these loving souls (they are all over the world) 🙌 💖 .


Don’t forget to share this with others.

I hope you find it helpful.
Please don’t forget to share it with anyone who may benefit from it. Thank you.

Enjoy your transformation!


To all the souls who have touched mine, I THANK YOU;  I HONOUR YOU, and I LOVE YOU 🙏 💖 🙌

In gratitude and with love,


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Overwhelmed by change and transition in your life? Read this!





Let me start by saying – Happy 2024!!
I wish us all an inspiring 2024 where we all rise while staying present and feeling grounded and centred deeply in our hearts, taking each step with a deep sense of empowerment.
2024 started with a bang, with so many of us exhausted before reaching the end of this month.
Many intense changes will continue to unfold this year, fast and very possibly furious, whether we like it or not.

I could feel it in my bones, starting in Q3 of 2023. The last quarter of 2023 was quite heavy, as you may experience it.
Intuitively guided, I created a new offering to support you – UPLIFT’s self-paced online program. 
If you are already curious about it now, please watch this video.
Otherwise, allow me to share with you the back story of the birth of this program.

Giving birth to this program is quite a journey for me!
This was seven years in the making.
I started my journey as a subconscious mind reprogrammer in 2016 after I decided to answer my soul calling and say yes to it.

I had a vision of showing up for many people from many parts of the world, supporting them to deeply embody the feeling of love, peace, and freedom.
I even spoke about this to some friends and immediately told them that I didn’t know how to make this vision happen, apart from one thing.
I started with myself first, doing what I could to embody deeper peace, love, and freedom.
So, I did, and I still continue to date.
Included in these seven years are two batches of 14 weeks of supporting young refugees in Indonesia in a pro-bono capacity to heal their traumas and create new goals, healthy habits and lifestyles embodying groundedness, centeredness, presence, focus and empowerment. This happened in 2022 and 2023.
The intent of this young refugee mentoring program was to support them to embody their authentic resilience, which is much needed to deal with such an imaginable situation they are in.
Some of them left their families and homelands unaccompanied in their early teen years. Since then, they have been doing what they can to survive and make a life while waiting for their settlement location. This period is long; some of my mentees have been waiting for eight years.
A few people asked me – how did you do it – working with such heavy emotions and traumas?

My answer to them is that I make sure I stay emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually fit and healthy before, during and after the engagement.
I did many healing sessions before, during, and after the program.
This is the standard I hold myself to in my choice to support others, and it is the same standard I have for any service I offer to all my clients.
I intend to offer something to the world that is built on empowerment and liberation and to do that, I need to be a person who embodies a healthy level of both.
My journey with these young life warriors was so profound.
It deepened my understanding of how to navigate extended periods of uncertainty and keep going in life with hope and dignity.

My soul, mind, heart and body grew so much during these particular periods that when I received the intuitive guidance to start the process of giving birth to this UPLIFT program in October 2023, I was ready!

The UPLIFT program was recorded over a period of 8 weeks with live participants in it. We all were deeply transformed throughout this process, and we are still experiencing the shifts today. You will read their stories about their journey in it soon. 

And now, it’s ready for you, too.

…. with so much excitement, let me briefly share what UPLIFT’s self-paced online program is. If you want to know more details about it, watch this video.
UPLIFT’s self-paced online program is to help anyone who wishes to go through the change, transition, or crisis they are in feeling grounded, centred, focused, present and empowered.

This is a deep journey to bring you home to your heart and body, embody your authentic self, and reprogram both your conscious and subconscious minds to help you embody the creative creator you naturally are.

Regardless of the changes you are going through (it can be triggered or connected to your work, relationships, health, money, or anything else), each module of this program will help you transform your state of being at that time into a higher one. 
If you did it in a one-to-one setting, this whole program would equate to 24 private sessions with me. UPLIFT’s self-paced program is comprehensive and deep, yet not limited by time.
As you do it, you are in charge of the pace of your process while enjoying the offered structure, content and support.
You can also repeat this program as often as you like.
How come? Because you will change your goal regularly as you grow and the depth of your subconscious mind.
Every time you re-do this program, you also access the deeper layer of your subconscious mind.
UPLIFT self-paced also offers you some important knowledge about transformation and critical skills that you can continue utilizing in the years to come beyond going through the program itself.
Will you be interacting with me as you go through this program?
YES – through the UPLIFT community that you will be invited into.
You will also connect with others in this community on a journey similar to yours.

You will get access to the Group Q&A Zoom (and recorded) sessions where you can bring in your questions, and I’ll do my best to answer them.
As you go through UPLIFT, you will gain a deeper connection with yourself and life WHILE also developing a higher sense of confidence in managing your transformation journey as you will go through this type of journey many times.
When you have decided that you want to go through the transition you are in right now feeling empowered, start today!
This is an investment that keeps on giving, as the people who have completed this program would tell you (their stories will come soon!).
I also offer a payment plan if needed.
Connect here to discuss with me how this program can help you.
I wish us all an empowering time navigating what 2024 will bring (buckle up, Buttercups!). We’ve got this!


In gratitude and with love,


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What’s the worst thing that can happen to you when you get what you wish for?



“What is the WORST thing that can happen to you when you GET what you WISH for ?”


This is one of the most powerful questions I always ask my clients when they decide to have my support to move towards their fulfilling life.


It is a question that will linger with them for a long time, and the answers will come up at many different times since they start planting this question in their consciousness.


One hundred per cent of the time, the answers brought out deep fear or shame or guilt or all of them that was locked in and buried deep within their heart and body.


Some can pinpoint where such beliefs and emotions may come from, some not because these are unconscious in nature.


Facing these unconscious thoughts, emotions, and beliefs is a crucial part of the deep work for living a fulfilling life.


I invite you to ask yourself this question.

Write it down. Sit with what comes up and acknowledge them with kindness to yourself. Even when it is uncomfortable, as you are connected to this gripping energy, you open up a treasure box that will lead you to what you wish for when you follow them up well.



With love,


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The dark and light aspects of living a fulfilling life




“The very center of your heart is where life begins – the most beautiful place on earth.” – Rumi




Living a fulfilling life is both aspirational and daunting.

There are valid reasons why this is so.


I want to be real about it, and this is why I decided to share my point of view about it – to share what can happen when you decide that you want to experience that. 


In this podcast episode (watch here and listen here), Julie Grauel and I discussed the dark and the light aspects of living a fulfilling life – the great, the bad and the ugly, sort to speak.


We discussed what a fulfilling life is, why it is daunting and difficult to transform towards it, what made the journey challenging, what can help to keep following through, and what can help to maintain it.


Through it, I unveiled the story behind my journey to describe and bring to life some key and important elements of such a journey.


I intend to help you understand the context of such an important and profound quest, so when or if you are in it right now and somewhat feel defeated by what you encounter in your process, you have a different way to look at your situation and persist.


I HONOUR your courage to allow yourself to either consider or persist in your choice for a fulfilling life.

May this sharing be a comforting companion for you 💖


With love,



#love #upliftmylifetoday #peace #intentionallife #fulfilllinglife #fulfilling #fulfillment #innerpeace #mentalhealth #inspiration #transformation #podcast #emotionalhealth #soul


Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod ( 

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Up close and personal with Uplift Transformation and Astuti



You are meant to be here. Living a fulfilling life.

With ease.



“What exactly do you do as a Subconscious Mind Reprogrammer?”


“Why do people come to you and not a psychologist or a coach?”


“How would I feel during such a deep process? 2


“What can happen to me during and after the program?”


“Are there tools to do your work?”


These are some questions that many at both dinner parties and discovery calls ask me all the time.


As we chat, they soon realize that the subconscious mind is vast and deep!

It ALWAYS creates lively discussions, especially when I share my clients’ stories (anonymously, with their permission) to bring these to life


I LOVE curiosity. I also realize I have an uncommon job title. I didn’t know it existed until I entered this niche space, either.


Now that I repeated this explanation often, I thought I’d create a video and audio podcast to answer these questions in more depth.


Please join me on this podcast episode if you, too, are curious! 🤗

Welcome to Uplift Transformation’s “black box”.


Julie Grauel kindly asked me questions in a way that would help you to imagine better what Uplift Transformation is about. She also asked me questions about myself that offered a glimpse into who I am.


Enjoy! I welcome additional questions if you still have some 😄


With love,


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Copyrights etc.: Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod ( 

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License 

Don’t look for it, truth will always find you.



Don’t look for it; the truth will always find you!


“What is going on in here? I wish I know!”


How often do we say this?


Truth (or a series of them) will find us as we invite it in, consciously or unconsciously, in silence or out loud.



Exercising free will (“I want to know the truth “or “I don’t want to know the truth”) is a part of our experience here as human beings.


Always remember – truth enters our life because we invite it in, and it is wise to be ready to integrate it.

Integrating truth is how we’d shift our situation and how we feel in our lives.



What helps us get ready is by answering the following question and doing it: what do I need to let go of and bring into my consciousness to go through a change with more ease?


Why change? Because when we invite truth to flow in, right now, we are not (yet) living fully connected to it.


Truth’s arrival will trigger a series of changes. That, we can be sure of.



Wishing us all a wonderful experience this week 💖


With love,


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Love…oh love!



Love… oh love 💖


Even though every day is a love day, I’d like to wish you a day filled with love – for YOURSELF and with your loved ones.


Self-love and self-care have been consistent topics with clients all last week.

Belief reprogramming was needed to help them show up for THEMSELVES with much more LOVE and CARE.


Today, I’d share some thoughts and tips for you to celebrate YOU this week:

HONESTY– can be scary, yet it is also liberating. What more can you do to love yourself than liberate your heart?


The other four tips in the 2nd photo are there to inspire you to care for yourself this week.

Choose one or all of them 😊 ENJOY!



On a personal note:

I started to enjoy sound healing at the end of 2021, which is JUST wonderful 🥰

Go to youtube to try it, or look for someone local to you and experience it. It is amazing!


Have a wonderful Valentine’s day!


With love,


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Does your help disempower others?




“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.”
– Maya Angelou

«So, does your help empower or disempower her?”

My world stopped when I heard this question.
It was 2012. My Father passed away suddenly a few months prior, and I intended to support my mother as she grieved. What I experienced was a lot of friction, painful friction, instead.
It was not an understatement that I felt horrified by this question and what I realized.

Immediately, I could see clearly how I supported my mother disempowered her.
How I approached her with a “solution” disturbed her process of connecting with her strengths– the strength that I have always admired and respected.

“Can you see how arrogant you are?” My therapist asked me. “You think you know better.”

With a mixture of peeved and shock, I uttered. “Yes”.
Then tears started to stream down my face.
“I do not mean to disempower nor disrespect my mother. I am very sorry”.

The incredible thing about this was that I could breathe well at that moment. Like I was relieved. I knew the truth was spoken then.

It was true; the whole thing was true. I thought I knew better, and yes, the word for it was “arrogance”.
No, it was not easy to be called arrogant, yet looking at what happened, I was.
I was horrified to discover that my desire to support my mother resulted in disempowerment. I love my mother with all my heart.
I don’t want to disempower people. I also don’t want to disempower myself.
When I disempower others, I actually disempower myself.
This was the beginning of such a humbling inward journey to be more honest with me.
My grief brought me to a deeper understanding of where I was at in my life then. Doors of expansion opened up as I went deeper into myself during this time.
I discovered that underneath my desire to help my mother, I had a deep suppressed fear – the fear of losing my mother.

This was a very familiar fear, a long companion in my life.
My (now late) mother had a chronic illness. Throughout my life, I experienced a few times when she did not feel she could make it. Each time this happened, the fear of losing my mother grew. Over time, this fear was wrapped up in an exquisite packaging of “I am strong, and I can help or fix the situation”. For my young heart, this was more “empowering” than “I am scared my mother is going to die”.

I lived unconsciously in this narrative. I became a “problem solver”; a “crisis manager”; a “destructor and rebuilder”.  It became a part of my identity.

Little did I realize that this came from a debilitating fear of losing my mother at a young age.
The more truthful way to describe the situation was, “I want my mother to be well so I can be well too”.

Then, I started doing the inner work to heal the childhood trauma and unresolved wounds that fed the deep fear of losing my mother. The truth is that human is mortal; everyone that comes here will leave.
Since then, I regularly do a double take whenever I support or help others – I check in with myself about what makes it important for me to do so and how I can do it in an empowering way for both of us. Life has been so much more light and enriching for me since.

Little did I know that such a healing journey also became highly beneficial for my professional life.
A few years later, I chose to change my career direction and started a profession requiring deep interaction with others – helping them move THEMSELVES from fear into safety – within.
This was when I decided to be a catalyst for others – as it is about my client’s life, not mine.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Most of you connected to me through this newsletter tend to be Givers, Helpers and Carers for others. It is a noble choice when it is done in an honest, balanced and empowering way.

This sharing is an invitation for you to reflect on whether the reason and how you show up for others are empowering for you both.
This clarity will change your life for the better. This, I can assure you.

When you discover that there is a fear associated with the role you choose to take on, please, start your healing journey. This would be, hands down, the best investment you’ll ever make in your life.
Take good care of yourself.
Showing up for others can be done in an uplifting way.


Please join me in sending my late mother, Widayati, loving energy as with her support, I could share this lesson with you and make the journey into life with much more love and less fear. Thank you.


With love,



p.s. If you need support, feel free to set up a call with me here.

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