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A Note Of Gratitude

Dear Astuti,

This is just a short message to thank you for sharing your Wisdom, your Truth, your Authenticity and your Love Emoji.

First time we connected years ago on a professional basis.

Since then I was receiving your occasional newsletters and observed your transformation.

I am astounded by how much you have changed! Bravo!!!

Many of your messages deeply resonated with me and I occasionally share them with those who could “receive” them too.

Please keep on going.

You are greatly appreciated!

You may not always receive messages of gratitude, but know that you impact other people lives profoundly.

 

Much Emoji

Tetyana

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The Journey Back To Myself

Years ago, Astuti and I crossed paths; a meeting for which I’m deeply grateful.
Over time, she has made a significant and positive impact on my life.

Growing up, I was often told I was not good enough, that I was worth nothing, that I was not doing enough.

My mother also reinforced this narrative publicly, sharing that version of me with others, turning my upbringing into a life experience I later had to unlearn.

These childhood wounds left behind triggers and holes affecting how I saw myself, how I allowed myself to be, and how I showed up in life.

Some concrete struggles I’ve worked through with Astuti include:
• making myself smaller (believing invisibility would protect me from judgment)
• difficulty saying no (due to fear of rejection)
• over-giving (hoping others would not feel what I once did)
• doing ‘too much’ (to prove my worth)
• over-explaining (seeking recognition just to live)
These are just a few examples of the deep patterns she helped me transform.

 

As a result, I now live from a place of inner peace and freedom.
I feel grounded in who I am, without needing external validation, no longer crossing my own boundaries or letting others define my choices or my life.

Working with Astuti is a journey because when core wounds are deeply rooted, healing takes time.
It unfolds in layers, with each one requiring integration before the next can open.
One step at a time.

To me, investing in yourself – and choosing to work with Astuti – is the best investment you can make.

You will not only feel whole and safe in who you are, you will also begin to witness life reflecting that wholeness back to you.
As within, so without.

Thank you, Astuti, for your love, patience, wisdom, and presence over the years.
You have truly helped me uplift my life.

 

Sabine Kuvener
www.blossomtarot.com/en

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Jourdan’s Unlearning Societal Expectations: Trailblazing a Path for Authenticity

Astuti’s introduction:

 

Jourdan Hussein is a poster child of an ambitious, successful go-getter.

With multiple degrees from world-renowned universities, work experiences in reputable international organizations, and The President’s Delivery Unit for Development Monitoring and Oversight of the Republic of Indonesia, Jourdan had much to be proud of.

 

Yet, for years, his heart longed for something else, and these are not the definitions of success in the path he was on. He longed to experience peace, kindness and gentleness beyond success. He had to create another path that allowed him to grow, build, and impact others, care for himself, and experience peace, kindness and gentleness.

 

Our paths crossed in 2019 when one of his friends, who was also a client, recommended that he reach out to me for support.

At the time, Jourdan was amidst an intensive transformation period as he chose to face his deep, hidden fears to expand his leadership capacity. He was on a quest to find out why he felt compelled to achieve so much in his life yet felt less than loved and enough regardless.

Growing up in a traditional Muslim family in Indonesia, the path he was expected to live was strictly laid out. There was no room for him to embrace his true self as an LGBTQIA+ member.

Yet, Jourdan realized that the only way to feel fulfilled is to create a life where he honours himself as his authentic self.

This is Jourdan’s “Love Wins!” story about his journey in UNLEARNING the societal expectations he once had abided to TRAILBLAZE a path for authenticity. He chooses to live and contribute to the world from a place of love.

 

Watch the snippet of the reflection here:

 

Watch the full reflection here:

 

Listen to Jourdan’s full reflection on Spotify here:

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How the Uplift My Life Today catalyses profound transformation

 

One transformational healing space. One facilitator. Many crises, intense frustration and powerlessness. Countless unique transformations. Celebration for liberation and fulfilment.

 

In conversations with my clients, whether written, verbal, or recorded, they describe subjectively how Uplift My Life Today catalyses profound changes in their lives (Thank you, Soraya, Jourdan, Angie, Adiyoga and Listya for sharing yours in this video).

 

The variety of answers they give is truly inspiring, as each person receives what matters most to them.

 

What I offer is more than just a service.

I create and hold a sacred, healing space filled with my presence and energy, wisdom, ever-growing and evolving competence and, most importantly, divine unconditional love for my soul tribe.

At the heart of it all is a humble intention: to support my clients in the most authentic way, guiding them toward their fulfilment every step of the way.

 

I look forward to welcoming you, too!

With 💖

Astuti

 

p.s set up your discovery call here: https://astuti-martosudirdjo.youcanbook.me/

Join my online programs here: https://embodiment.upliftmylife.today/

 

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Turning grief and the loss sense of self into my wholesome self

Astuti’s introduction:

Angie has lived, worked, and integrated herself (and supported her family in doing the same) in many spaces and places around the world that offer her contrasting experiences.

The life journey that she chooses brings about accumulated grief due to a sense of loss of self, relationships and dreams due to the experiences, as well as powerful and profound growth that essentially brings her home to her wholesome self.

 

Relocation is never just physical relocation.

Physical relocation (be it a place of living or a place to work) is the tip of the deeper consciousness transformation. When we realize this, we can get much more out of it.

 

I supported Angie’s transformation journey after she relocated from Kenya to the UK in 2022.

I hosted a light and deep conversation about her transformation that you can access through the links below.

 

Watch the snippet of the reflection here:

 

Watch the full reflection here:

 

Listen to Angie’s full reflection on Spotify here:

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My journey to embody my authenticity and heal a rare illness, Cushing’s Disease

Astuti’s introduction:

Adiyoga (Yoga) came recommended to me for support immediately after he had brain surgery in 2021, which was done in an attempt to heal from Cushing’s Disease. This rare disease occurs when a pituitary tumour causes the body to make too much cortisol.

 

In Yoga’s case, his body produced cortisol 14 times over the normal level. This has severe consequences for his health and well-being. He received this diagnosis in December 2020.

 

I hosted a deep conversation (you can watch or listen through the links below) with Yoga to reflect on his healing journey since then, which moves him from intense desperation, anger and fear into embodying his authentic self. It is his story of reclaiming his holistic health and well-being. It is a story of how love wins and continues to win in his life.

 

Watch the snippet of his reflection here.

 

Watch Yoga’s full story here:

 

Listen to Yoga’s full story on Spotify here.

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The inner journey from negativity, doubt and fears to trust, true love and the ease within

Getting on a transformation journey with Astuti has really changed my life for the better. I came from a rather traumatic background with a lot of unexpected twists and plummeting turns, abuse, neglect and burden from a young age.

 

I was at a point where I felt I couldn’t cope with any more unexpected twists and in a constant need to be in control of the situation, which was an impossible task.

 

The sessions with Astuti were like peeling out the many layers of negativity, doubt and fears, allowing me to discover trust, true love and the ease within.

 

With only a few sessions, I could notice the change within myself.

I could look back to the traumatic pasts without feeling victimized and at present with more satisfaction in life. I’m looking into the future with the trust that everything has its own time and that things will work out for the best for me.

 

I couldn’t be more grateful to Astuti and the changing impact she’s had on my life.

My advice to those considering getting on a journey is to be open-minded and authentic to your own feelings. The magic is awaiting! 🙂

 

YS

Bangkok, Thailand

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The dance between addiction and money stress

 


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Sometimes, as life happens, we lose sight of why we do what we do.

More often than not, as we take a bit of time to recall why we are so busy doing things, we may discover that the busy-ness is usually to deal with or avoid some stress and fear.

 

Hindsight view is 20/20 – so clear.

Looking back, I could see how the achievement addiction I had correlated with the unconscious belief I had about money. These two fed each other in my subconscious mind in a vicious cycle for years until I experienced burnout.

What a start it was to dismantle these two unconscious forces in my life then.

 

Let me share with you my story.

 

Due to the traumas that I experienced in my birth process and growing up (you could hear more of my story in this episode), my unconscious core need was to secure support and connections to feel safe. This need will continue to stay on until I die, in different degrees and forms.

 

When I was four years old, my father had a severe car accident. We were grateful he didn’t die, yet the close encounter with death impacted our family deeply. Since then, my parents raised me as their first (alive) child with the intention that if anything ever happened to them, I’d be able to take care of my siblings.

 

I grew up fast, consequently. The unconscious strategy that I went for then was to learn as many life skills as possible to save myself and help others attain safety. There was this feeling that I would be safe when everyone was too.

 

Over the years, these life skills became my strengths and, eventually, my personality.

 

I ended up naturally in roles and situations which required me to face crises. Crisis always brings with it an invitation to transform. This continues until today as I feel at home to play a role as an enabler of a transformation. In the past, I did this for organizations. These days I do it for individuals. Such opportunities happened so often in my life, even way before I started to enter the workplace.

 

Up to the end of 2008, I paid a high price in this path, however. I didn’t allow myself to ask for help, and I stretched myself so thin for so long. As I was doing everything to keep “everyone safe”, I put myself last. Thirty-four years of existence doing this led me to burnout in December 2008.

In hindsight, I could see that the achievement addiction I had was my continuous efforts to experience the feeling of safety and connections.

It was shocking to realize it at first. Yet I made peace with it. In that, I made peace with what happened and the choices that I made, consciously and unconsciously.

 

So, how did the money stress fit into this?

Up to the burnout, I had an unconscious habit of sharing what I earned with the people I cared about, especially my parents. This was the same unconscious strategy that I had to feel safe. I shared what I have so everyone can feel “safe”.

 

My parents never asked me to do so. I just did it. They appreciated this although they were very concerned that I didn’t save the money for me. I remembered telling them not to worry about me.

 

The truth was, now that I could see it, the hidden (unconscious) reason why I was not saving enough for myself was that I was very uncomfortable with money as energy. I’d even label it as a fear.

This fear came from what I observed in my extended and immediate family system that became an active unconscious program in my subconscious mind – the beliefs such as “money ruins family”, “money breaks relationships”, “money induces distrust”, etc.

In my subconscious mind, money was a threat to my core needs, which is to attain support and connections with others.

 

Can you see how these unconscious beliefs and programs about money that I had made me feel unsafe?

In the past, whenever I earned money (and making money was never an issue), I felt unsafe. To feel safer, I had to work even more. Work was the primary way to attain a feeling of safety.  This goes on and on and on that, it became a vicious (unconscious) cycle for years.

 

Then burnout happened. It was an invitation to stop, rest and reset. It was an invitation to start over.

I can see how all these are connected.

 

For so long, money was more of a stressor than it was a welcome resource. For a long time, the beliefs I had about money fed the achievement addiction that I had.

 

Thankfully, this has changed since!!

 

And this is what this podcast episode is about.

Ilana JankowitzMy conversation with Ilana Jankowitz, a Certified Mindful Money Coach and NLP Practitioner based in Zurich, Switzerland, is about how our existing money beliefs, habits, and patterns (represented by the Archetypes) contribute to the stress and fear we have.

We are also discussing financial abuse, how addiction and money stress correlates and rooted in the same wound and what needs to be done to change these. Ilana gives us some practical tips and tools to help you be more aware of your existing archetype as the first step in changing your relationship with money.

Ilana helps entrepreneurs look for new opportunities and grow their businesses by showing them how to develop a great relationship with money and set in motion the action steps they need to take to live their true purpose.

 

Enjoy and remember to share it with others.

 

Love,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00     Welcome

03:45     Introduction to Ilana Jankowitz of Mindful Money Coaching and her personal story in transforming her limiting money stress, belief, fears and destructive habits.

10:00     The difference between Financial Planner and Mindful Money Coach.

12:46     What archetypes in money coaching mean and what they are. Why it is helpful to know to change your money mindset.

20:30    Example of how the archetypes play out in our money decision. How these archetypes show up in us.

26:05    How (unconscious) guilt sabotages our efforts to change our money mindset.

31:00    Financial abuse – what it is and how it plays out in our life, the inner work to be done to move into a healthier relationship. The common root cause of addiction and money stress and what to do about it.

45:55     Steps to change your money mindset and available supports to help you. Do the Money Mindset free quiz https://www.mindfulmoneycoaching.com/money-type-quiz/.

49:00    Summary of this discussion. How to stay in touch with Ilana Jankowitz.

 

I’d love to hear from you. Please write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today for input, feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

 

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Copyrights etc.:

Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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Mengisi ulang kalbu dengan “sparks and passion” – Irvan Saputra Masyulhak

 


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Tiba-tiba di awal tahun 2020 fisik dan mental Irvan Saputra Masyulhak yang biasanya aktif, prima dan sehat menjadi lesu, tidak berenergi dan mati rasa. Yang sangat mengkhawatirkan adalah hal ini berlangsung selama berbulan-bulan. Buat seorang Go-Getter yang punya tendensi untuk selalu mencapai target lebih dari yang diminta, hal ini membuat dirinya dan juga keluarganya sangat khawatir.

 

Percakapan di episode ini adalah refleksi Irvan tentang apa yang terjadi, apa yang dilakukannya untuk keluar dari situasi yang menakutkan ini dan bagaimana kehidupannya berubah drastis semenjak memulai proses transformasi ini.

 

Siapakah Irvan?

Irvan adalah seorang Finance Professional yang saat ini berkarir sebagai CFO di sebuah perusahaan Biotechnolgy di Belanda. Dia berdomisili di kota Utrecht sejak tahun 2012. Awal mula kepindahannya ke Belanda adalah untuk melanjutkan Pendidikan MBA dan juga menemani istrinya yang saat itu ditugaskan sebagai expat dari perusahaannya. 

 

 

Di waktu senggang, Irvan bersama Istri dan seorang putra mereka yang berusia 4 tahun sangat menikmati hiking ke pegunungan, travelling mengunjungi daerah-daerah baru, dan juga baking cake.  

 

 

Keinginan terbesar Irvan adalah untuk membawa pengaruh positif terhadap lingkungan sekitarnya. Untuk mewujudkannya, Irvan sedang menjalani pendidikan sebagai Career Coach dengan tujuan untuk mendukung orang-orang, terutama dari Indonesia, yang mempunyai cita-cita berkarir di dunia Internasional (IG: irvansa_  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/irvan-saputra-masyulhak-193b66/

 

Selamat mendengarkan,

Astuti

 

Timestamp:

00:00   Selamat datang dan pembukaan.

01:55   Masalah dan kendala berat dan tak terduga yang dihadapi oleh Irvan di awal tahun 2020.

10:13   Refleksi akan gejala-gejala yang dialami sebelum tahun 2020.

14:00   Bantuan yang Irvan cari untuk merubah situasi dan kondisinya.

20:23   Hal-hal yang mengejutkan dari proses transformasi Irvan.

26:18   Penemuan mengejutkan mengenai ketakutan yang sangat dalam di alam bawah sadar Irvan yang mempengaruhi cara hidupnya sampai saat itu.

30:44   Bagaimana kehidupan Irvan berubah semenjak menjalankan proses transformasi ini di berbagai aspek kehidupannya – hubungan dengan istri, dengan anak, di perkerjaan, di lingkungan dan dengan dirinya sendiri.

43:35   Input buat siapapun yang ingin melakukan proses transformasi

49:23   Rangkuman dari percakapan ini dan informasi untuk menghubungi Irvan.

 

Silakan memberi feedback dan input melalui astuti@upliftmylife.today.

Juga, jika ingin berkonsultasi, silakan membuat janji lewat https://astuti-martosudirdjo.youcanbook.me/

 

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#risefromburnout #intentionallife #selflove #selfcare #rttworks #bodycode #emotioncode #inheritedfamilytrauma #astutimartosudirdjo

 

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Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

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Trauma healing support with essential oils

 

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“Astuti, is there anything that I can do to support me throughout this transformation journey?”
 
I get this question regularly.
 
And, I am continuously searching for ways to suggest to my clients.
 
What I’ve learnt about transformation is the following: to experience it, we are to do TWO PARALLEL things – healing the wounds that created unconscious beliefs and programs that are currently running our life AND to strengthen what we would like to experience, right now.

For example, when we’d like to enjoy a fulfilling sense of success (instead of empty success), joy is one of the emotions we would like to experience very often.
 
To do so, in parallel, we are to heal the wounds that created unconscious beliefs and program that block us from FEELING and EXPERIENCING joy AND do something concretely daily that allows you to feel joy. There is endless opportunity for this. I find immense joy in “chatting” with my 27 months old nephew Leo, so every day, I’d Facetime video him even only for a few minutes.
 
I’d recommend my clients take good care of their body, mind and emotion when going through such a transformative process. Drinking enough, moving enough (through sports, dancing, walking, whatever suits them best), doing something creative (singing, writing, drawing, etc.), resting enough, connecting with their loved ones, and consuming enough vitamins and supplements are some of them.
 
Now, I am adding essential oil as a resource for supporting trauma healing, and it is the topic of today’s podcast.
 
I am very excited to host Kari Dunlop in this conversation. Her transformation journey is quite a story.
 
I got to know Kari when I learnt Inherited Family Trauma healing from Mark Wolynn, the author of “It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle”. This training is about accessing family and ancestral traumas that are still impacting us today and compassionately liberate ourselves from it.
 
Kari has been working with Mark for 11 years, and, in addition to practising this healing method herself, she is also coordinating everything that has to do with the training. In one session, she briefly shared how essential oil is beneficial to support trauma healing.
 
Ding… ding… ding!!
 
I immediately got in touch with her, and here we are.
 
Kari Dunlop is a certified functional medicine health coach and wellness junkie specialising in inherited family trauma, based in Calgary, Canada. 
 
It was her own 25-year struggle with a chronic illness that ultimately changed things for her in the best of ways. The proverbial silver lining of her ‘hell-th’ journey was discovering the work of Mark Wolynn, one of the leading experts in the field of inherited family trauma.
 
A former TV producer, Kari now helps people see how the real-life stories of their family histories are unknowingly connected to the challenges they currently struggle with. It didn’t start with us, and the good news is that we can break the generational cycle of these patterns.
 
Kari is also a Martha Beck life coach and a self-professed neuroscience geek obsessed with learning about the brain. Kari has studied with neuroplasticity experts Rick Hanson, Annie Hopper and Lisa Wimberger.  She is also a Young Living essential oil specialist who teaches about the benefits of essential oils on the brain. 
 
“Astuti, what can my parents do to release their fear and anxiety when they’re not willing to get professional help?”
 

To that, I’d say, listen to this episode, as we will discuss how essential oil supports trauma healing, what essential oils to use, and the answer to the above question.

 
Kari is also sharing some resources that I’m listing below.
One of them is a webinar called “All the Feels – The science of your brain, emotions + oils”.
 
See you on the podcast channel and enjoy your exploration on this topic!
 
With love,
Astuti

 

Resources:
To get Young Living Essential Oils – write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today.
Recording of “All the Feels– The Science of your brain, emotions + Oils” webinar. Password: 0ilyG0Odne$s
Resources from Carla Green – a wealth of resource for you to access.
It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn.
Evidence-based Essential Oil Therapy: The Ultimate Guide to the Therapeutic and Clinical Application of Essential Oils by Dr Scott A. Johnson.
Your Brain On Oils: The Undiscovered Science of Essential Oils by Corey Deacon.
The Aroma Freedom Technique: Using Essential Oils to Transform Your Emotions and Realise Your Heart’s Desire by Dr Benjamin Perkus

 

Timestamp:

00:00   Opening

01:15   Meet Kari Dunlop, a Certified Functional Medicine Health Coach -Inherited Family Trauma Practitioner- Young Living essential oil lover and her story to heal her chronic disease that was untreatable for 19 years.

07:43   Scientific study explains what happens to the brain when we’re using an essential oil that accelerates the healing. The Fabulous 4 oils to support trauma healing.

09:48   What development trauma and “Break in the bond” trauma is and how these show up in our lives as adults. How and which essential oils can support our efforts to heal these.

15:38   Protocol and essential oils to support grief or emotionally fragile state.

22:15   The three steps to use essential oil in supporting your healing journey, including neuroplasticity exercises.

26:43   What influences the speed of your body feeling the positive impact of essential oils. Some essential oil expert in following (they are authors and public speakers).

28:40   Can essential oils help people who are not yet willing to heal their traumas with the help of professionals (psychologist, therapists, etc.)?

34:34   What is “Break in the bond” trauma and which oils to use to support its healing—information about Mark Wolynn (www.markwolynn.com).

43:43   How to stay connected with Kari Dunlop and to watch her webinar “All the Feels – the Science of your brain, emotions + oils” (password: 0ilyG0Odne$s). To get Young Living essential oils, reach out to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today.

 

I’d love to hear from you. Please write to me at astuti@upliftmylife.today for input, feedback and suggestions. Thank you!

 

#traumahealing #inheritedfamilytraumahealing #breakinthebond #developmentaltrauma #essentialoil #essentialoils #burnout #mentalhealth #upliftmylifetoday

#risefromburnout #intentionallife #selflove #selfcare #rttworks #bodycode #emotioncode #inheritedfamilytrauma #astutimartosudirdjo

 

Copyrights etc.:

Music used in this episode: “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com).

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License

 

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