Meet one of the most powerful trio in our lives: Responsibility, expectation and fear 😎😄🤗

 

In the last newsletter, I shared my thoughts about responsibility and how it may impact how we show up as the primary providers of unconditional self-love.

Today, let me focus on the other two members of this trio: expectation and fear.

 

Expectation… oh, expectation.

It is so deeply etched in the way we live that expectations form our identity.

This is a topic that underlies the suffering and struggles of so many people. Myself included.

 

The habit of setting expectations for ourselves and others started in childhood.

As children, expectations from the world outside of us (our parents, teachers, family, society, etc.) became the GPS of our lives. They gave us the directions and boundaries of what is acceptable and good according to the collective we belong to.

 

Over the years, we have embodied these expectations like our skin and used them as our true GPS.

Over time, we expect ourselves and others to be and do things in a way that is in compliance with what we’ve known and complied with, even when they may actually go against our true nature. Here lies the problem – against our own true nature!

 

After experiencing burnout, I became much more conscious of how many expectations that I strived to meet until then actually had little to do with what made sense to me. They did not make sense because they did not resonate well enough for me. Resonate with what? Resonate with my true nature. 

 

Please watch this video to hear more about what happened to me during my burnout in 2008 and how I rose back from it.

 

The expectations I had for years brought up so many unconscious fears out that were triggered by the challenges I had in 2008. Why unconscious? Because, if you asked me back then whether I felt scared, I would tell you… “HELL NO!”

Yet, there was a lot of growing tension in my body – stress was one of my loyal companions that year.

 

Yes, I suppressed many fears then instead of acknowledging and facing them. It was a well-established habit. Over time, while ignoring my feelings and the messages from my body in the form of aches and pains, burnout happened.

 

Expectation and fear always go together, like life is paired with death.

 

Many of us grew up not being taught how to deal with fears properly and thoroughly.

If anything, we are encouraged not to give attention to it. “Don’t be scared,” we often hear, right?

 

The thing with fear is that the more you suppress it, the more grip it has over you. The healthiest way to deal with it is to face it. Facing fear is an important life skill.

 

This is what session 4 of the Unconditional Self-Love Embodiment program is helping you with.

 

It focuses on deepening your understanding of how responsibilities always bring expectations, which often bring up fears. You will examine your deep fears about fully showing up for yourself and providing unconditional self-love on a daily basis. It will also lead you through subconscious mind reprogramming to ease and empower you to flow with life. 

 

As you take on full responsibility as the main provider of unconditional self-love, you will have expectations. This session is to help you manage your own expectations towards yourself in a healthier way.

 

I wish you a wonderful transformation!

 

If you do this program, please let me know how it helps you. I always love hearing your updates.

 

Thank you, and enjoy session 4!

 

In gratitude and with love,

Astuti

 

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Hello again,

Thank you so much for your heart-warming emails and voicemails. I feel very loved, and I am grateful 🥰🥰🥰

I also appreciate your feedback about the gift (this program) – it truly got me excited hearing that you are going to check it out. Do enjoy it, and let me know what you think and feel about it.

I’ve been thinking about how I can support humanity to heal with the hope that wars eventually will be much more rare or even nonexistent.

 

I’ve come to the conclusion that the more hearts heal (even when we do not experience wars), the more we and the Earth embody love; therefore, the faster the collective subconscious programming will shift to become more love-driven.

 

When we heal our hearts—it is our heart—it does not need permission from others. Yet, the impact of a healing and healed heart multiplies by hundreds or thousands or more, IMPACTING humanity collectively.

 

On the journey, we don’t need to discuss, argue, or disagree with anyone.

It is a peaceful way to change the world, and we are the focus of it. As the late Michael Jackson said, “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.”

 

You may not realize the extent of the positive impact you have when you heal your heart.

 

I do!

For years, I’ve witnessed how my clients’ healing journeys changed the dynamics of their families and extended family. There was much more love energy within the family and their systems.

Like them, I’ve experienced for many years how my personal healing impacts my family (across generations), extended family, and the systems I belong to. It impacts my relationships with my clients, my friends, and everyone around me. I consider it my legacy to have contributed more love to my family systems.

 

What I’ve witnessed and experienced supports what my friend Mo Gawdat, who wrote the book Solve for Happy, discovered about supporting one billion people to be happier.

He calculated what it would take to reach that goal practically, and he said that all it would take would be for everyone who reads the book to tell two other people about it.

 

You matter in more ways than you can imagine!

 

Within the next few weeks, you’ll be hearing a bit more often from me than usual.
I’ve done what I can to make this a worthwhile reading for you. 

 

The second session of the “Unconditional Self-love Embodiment program” is ready for you.

The further you go into the program, the “meatier” the content will be.
I am mindful of the importance of building up your inner muscles as you go through this journey.

 

While the first session was about you assessing your current state of unconditional love, you also confirmed your choice to become the primary/main provider of unconditional love for yourself. 

This has many implications, and through the next few sessions, I will provide you with a journey to embody some of them.

 

The second session is to help you create more inner space so you can embody the role of the main/primary provider of unconditional self-love. It will ask you to reflect on the dynamics of your existing relationship with others, strengthen your forgiveness muscles, and reprogram your subconscious mind to let go of the past with much more ease.

Doing this will help you create a much larger space to connect and hold love in your heart.

 

I wish you a great journey!
Remember to take as much time as you need to complete it. Come back to it as many times as you need.

I offer you something profound, and it may require you to sleep over these questions to answer them to the depth that is good for you.

Regardless, you are choosing you, and I love you for that.

 

Do not forget to subscribe to the Uplift My Life Today YouTube channel so you will be notified when I release the video there. Remember also to share it with others.

Thank you so much, and I’ll see you again in the next newsletter…soon!

 

In gratitude and with love,

Astuti

#restart #love #authenticlife #startover #love #upliftmylifetoday #intentionallife #resilience #mentalhealth #inspiration #transformation #podcast #purpose #peace #iamthepeace #wearethepeace #innerpeace #humanbeing #beinghuman #innerpeace #soul #soulalignment #emotionalwellbeing #soulwellbeing #unconditionalselflove #unconditionallove